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| Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:34pm |
I'm not sure here if anyone has read my few posts in the last month, but I will do an update anyhow...
Well my MM is getting a legal seperation next Monday. Hes sick of his wifes crap, and realizes that he can do without her and still be in his kids lifes. I'm not holding out any hope considering alot can change between now and next Monday. We did talk about spending New Years Eve together yesterday, but I'm not holding out any hope for that either..lol considering alot can change from now and then. I live from day to day when it come to him, so that way I wont get my feelings hurt if he has change of plans, even though it hurts anyway.
This may sound alittle stupid...but has anyone in here ever dated a MM and you yourself are a single person and then the MM gets a divorce. The reason I ask...I'm alittle scared of him becoming single again. What if he decides that he's been stuck in a 9 year relationship and wants to go out and explore what the single life has to offer him, and kicks me to the curb. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't blame him if he would want to explore, but i've invested so much emotional energy in him that I'm scared and alittle attached. it's alittle strange, because I've so waited for this day to come, but now that its almost here I can't seem to enjoy it :o/.
Thanks for reading...I know my grammer sucks!!

cl-liberalgirl
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Anyway, enjoy and be optimistic about the future. You have a lot to look forward to. There are never any guarantees, even in a normal relationship, so you just have to hope that the future will be as bright as you've always dreamed. The worst that could happen is you don't end up together and you find someone else who makes you equally as happy if not happier...
Regarding his kids....he see's them everyday now because his mother is the day care provider..lol and they haven't been living together for over 3 months. Plus the kids spend 3 nights out of the week and every other weekend with him, so he seems them alot.
I do have to look at the big picture...and no, I wouldnt want him to jump from one relationship into another. I don't think he's much of a dater, but I would want him to explore other possabilites. I try and imagin myself in his shoes and honestly I think I would want to explore my options. I guess I'm just alittle scared to let go!! Everything happenes for a reason, and maybe his reasons will lead him to me :) It's nice to dream!
Have a wonderful Holiday & Happy New Year
My story was briefly posted. My M was and still technically is a MM. His divorce will be final in feb 2004. He and I have known and been inlove since high school. But, you know. life takes us on a long journey before letting us rest and find love and happiness. His wife sounds alot like my mans. And they have two girls as well. I just want to let you know that being in the same situation as yourself. I have had those doubts. Things like " he's been in this miserable relationship, maybe he doesnt want to jump in another so soon. " What if he wants to have otherk experiences with other people. See, I was the single one and only because it is him am I ready to settle. I am content. What helped us and me with those insecurities was to have a discussion about how things were gonna go once he left the home. His first and most important issue were the girls and making sure they were still provided for. It was hard at first, because the stbx was using them (and still does to this very moment) and he was doing the jump when she calls things. It had almost gotten to the point where I was ready to walk away because it was too stressful. The talk we had was open and honest. but it worked. we are together and have a 5 month old child. he doesnt want to lose us. He told me how he has waited for this chance all his life and doesn't need to wait to see if it is "right". we are happy and truly in love. hopefully this divorce will be over soon and we can get on with our lives and his two girls share in all the happiness as well. (their mother does her darnest to keep them away from him, she is the DEVIL)