Want to Hear From "Older" Women in A's
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Want to Hear From "Older" Women in A's
| Sun, 05-02-2010 - 11:47am |
I would be interested in hearing from other women that are older, perhaps mid 40's and up, that are married and involved in relationships with other married men, that are also older.

I'm not quite where your age cut-off is, but close.
Once children are involved, it's DIFFICULT...no matter the age. There's a whole set of issues that comes with each "stage", whether we're talking
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A lot of what Sue said resonates with me!
People with small children think that once the children are grown they would be freer to leave the marriage, but there's so much more to consider than small children in the home. By the time children are grown, you've spent many years with your spouse, and unless it's a truly bad marriage, there is love and affection there. Also, there is growing "wealth" between you - 401Ks, retirement funds, property, etc. The family is also changing, children getting married, grandchildren coming etc. Sharing the "fruits of your life" together is a powerful incentive to stay. There are shared friends that you've had since your youth, and at a later stage of your marriage you truly consider your in-laws "family" - all things you could lose in a separation.
I'm in my 50's and my OM is a little younger - 4 years. My H is a year older and we met in high school.
Honestly, I think it would be easier to leave when you're younger, even with small children. Younger children adapt well, it's the grown ones who can develop a grudge to hold against you. People staying "for the children" should really think about what it would mean to stay until they're grown, and what will get in their way at that point.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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This is a really great topic, mogulbunny.
Geez, I'm having to do math here.
We were 37/41 when this began six years ago.