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Want what you cant have?
| Mon, 01-19-2004 - 7:24pm |
I am a lurker have been for a long time, I have posted here and there, but I have a question, have any of you ever felt this way, I have been in my A for almost 4 years, we have had bad and good times, I was M when it started, now I am divorced he is still M, anyways for so long I have pressured him and asked him when will he leave the M, NOW, I am to a point where I am supporting him staying with his wife, I have seen how controlling he is, the hours he works, how loud he snores, how he wants to be waited on hand and foot and all his expectations of what a wife should be and I DO NOT want to be that person. I know I love him, he drives me nuts, but I could not imagine ever marrying this man or even spending more than the time we spend together, how awful is that. Right now I have all the time to focus on my kids, spend time with family and when it works out we have a great time together, great sex. I just feel if he ever left his wife it would all be ruined, is this a normal feeling??

This post is a perfect example of what I've been trying to point out to others, who want to leave their marriages for their A partners. Here's where you'll be, eventually. It's a fine place, but it may not be the same place/situation you experienced in the first years of your A... or what you expected.
So... Fooled, to answer your question, yeah, it's a normal feeling for many. For me it's definitely more than just sex, but after 7 years I have no delusions of what it would be like to live this this man. I'm thrilled to be his lover and best friend, but I'll pass on the marriage, thank you very much...
Edited 1/19/2004 9:33:43 PM ET by wwwmommydotcom
I'm with you mommy on this one... this is
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do not approach MM about his M, or make any demands as to the future. live your life the way you want to. take care of YOU and the kids. enjoy yourself. you're entitled!!
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