Was going to ask a question........

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Registered: 04-30-2009
Was going to ask a question........
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 7:55am
I wanted to ask all of you a question here yesterday, but decided against it after i had read a few questions and their answers. There was nothing wrong with the questions, but my god, some of you are so rude and downright mean in your answers. People come here to get advice, and some of you(not all)are just being horrible. Just wanted to vent,but just wanted to let you guys know what i see. Will not be coming back as there is no support here.
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Registered: 02-22-2009
Thu, 04-30-2009 - 8:16am

Honestly, I felt the same way for awhile. Then I started going back through the old posts... some of my questions were answered by reading those. Then I figured you only get out of something what you put into it, so decided to jump in myself. The people on this board really do have good intentions... sometimes what we may take as harsh or mean is because we don't have the back story on why they may have to use such tough love! give them a try you never know...


Remember the advice and answers to our questions may not be what we Want to hear, but what we Need to hear...

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Registered: 04-27-2009
Thu, 04-30-2009 - 11:39am

Hi Jealousy,


I have only been here for a couple of days, but thought I might offer my two cents to your post.

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Thu, 04-30-2009 - 12:10pm

not sure who or what you considered rude, so it's hard to reply.

if telling someone to reconsider an A is rude, well, the guidelines don't say we have to encourage affairs - just discuss things as people who have experience and can tolerate A's without judgment.

and yes some posters are blunt. some posters are even rude - although i would say you ain't seen nothing yet. and thankfully the ones who are downright vicious are handled by the excellent cl and cm.

and maybe the posters who would understand your situation and share your POV aren't here today. do read past posts and see if anyone thinks like you. then come back.

sorry it didn't work for you today.
Mrs.

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Registered: 04-05-2004
Thu, 04-30-2009 - 4:58pm
Hi Jealousy,

I have been coming here for years, but hardly ever post anymore due the same reason. It say's support but you dont always get that. I have been in an A for amost 6 yrs.. I think I have been through it all- so to speak, so if you would like to email me privately I will try to help, not saying I'll be right by any means, but like I have said, I've learned a lot over the years.

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Fri, 05-01-2009 - 12:00am
jealousy...I hear ya.
maystone
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Registered: 12-24-2008
Fri, 05-01-2009 - 7:02am
I agree with Maystone...I think there are some posters you just need to ignore and focus on the ones that seem to understand and sympathize what you are going through. It seems to me that some posters get bent out of shape if someone doesn't handle things exactly the way they think they should but not everyone's affairs are the same situations. This board can be very helpful, it has been for me and I come here almost everyday to read all the new posts. It helps to give me strength and courage to get through the day. It helps knowing that you are not the only person going through these emotions and having a rough time.