Was it a mistake ?

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Was it a mistake ?
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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 2:30pm

I am just curious to know that are you gals/ guys sorry for finding yourself in an A ? Do you think it was a mistake and are trying to mend it by removing yourself from it? Or is it the best thing that ever happened to you in-spite of it being painful at times? Is the love worth the pain ?

I am a MW but in A for pure sexual reasons with a much younger MM,if that matters.But if i was to fall in love like you gals/guys, i would say,yes,the love is worth the pain ( havent been ,so could be wrong !)

TIA.

(( hugs )) to all!!

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Registered: 11-26-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 3:54pm
From my experience it was a mistake that I've regretted ever since. Mine was a 5 month EA with limited physical contact, no IC, but the word "love" was used once/twice, by me, not him. I've been NC for over a month now and it's allowed me to gain perspective on what I thought was wrong with my marriage and I'm now taking the necessary steps to fix it. There was never a DDay so I now live with the guilt of my selfish indiscretion. I will always be sorry for what I've done, and for jeopardizing everything important in my life.
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 4:05pm

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:01pm
I am still involved with my mm, I was a mw when it started. I left when I
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 9:50pm

I am just curious to know that are you gals/ guys sorry for finding yourself in an A ? No

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 11:09pm

I feel it was a mistake.

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 11:36pm

I am just curious to know that are you gals/ guys sorry for finding yourself in an A ? Sorry for being in an affair...yes, but sorry I'm with him...no!

maystone
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 03-10-2009 - 12:26pm

ah my xap is the best boyfriend i had ever had....no regrets here either...he still does for my son...i am really and truly not sorry when it boils down to it....it is what it is....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-12-2008
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 10:27am

I am just curious to know that are you gals/ guys sorry for finding yourself in an A ?