the way they make us feel?

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the way they make us feel?
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:49pm
Why is it that I feel the need/want for sex so much more since this A has started. H does not lack in the skills department, but I just want it so much more with MM ... I wake up horny, and think about him all day, and all night.

Does anyone else get what I mean?
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Registered: 03-04-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:01pm
Because you can't have him when you want him. If you could have him all the time, you wouldn't be as fired up and ready to go.

Don't believe me? Just ask my OW who could very easily have my affection when we wake up every morning and before bed every night. Oh, the first two weeks were pretty good... but as we approach the end of month 2... I'm sorry, how does that sex thing go again? I seem to have forgotten...

rain

(who swears if this A ends like my M, I will never commit again; apparently, security is the death blow for desire.)

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Registered: 03-25-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:06pm
Oh My God! I know COMPLETELY how you feel. My MM can send me an e-mail where just one single sentence can drive me out of my mind. I feel like a hormonal teen-ager sometimes. I think about it so much. I want it so much. But it's not just animal sex to me...it's more of an "emotional- I am completely falling in love and need to be near him" thing.
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:15pm
rain

TALK TO HER!! I couldn't imagine getting mm all to myself and after 2 mos reading a Stephen King book instead of enjoying the pleasure of our bodies! Something is bothering her and it is best to find out. Not ALL women are like this, it woudl be a shame for you to give up on committment because of this.


To answer the thread... I find that at certain times of the month I am in NEED of my MM's attention more so then at other times. This week for instance.. and he is buried in work! UGH sooooo frustrating! If we can't get it done between the hours of 9-5 M-F it just isn't happening... why am I doing this agaiN????


dd

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:21pm
Security is the death blow for desire? I don't think so, Rain, and let me hazard a guess that you really don't think so either. I read your other post. You two have to have a serious talk. I may be wrong but have a feeling that there must be another, much more important reason for your OW’s change of behavior than simply feeling secure because she now "has you."
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:52pm
I understand and agree with your posting. My EMA is emotional and sexual. The passion I feel with my MM is different. I don't think it is just "because it is forbidden fruit". It is that my MM is more passionate and a better lover than my H.

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 6:16am
I agree totally - I can hear MM voice or see his number on my cell-phone and want it! Don't you think it's part of the passion, hiding, nobody knows we're doing it in the middle of the day in car kinda thing? LOL! It's all of that - that makes it exciting, it's fun, it's living on the edge.


Rain - I read your post..you do need to talk to her!!

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:08am
All I have to do is hear my mm's voice.... it's somewhat deep and british! OMG the man just does IT for me what can I say!

dd

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:40pm
Ok, just reading these posts makes me want my MM. He's just as sexually ELECTRIC, exciting, sexy, sexual, beautiful, and makes me weak at the knees as the first time I saw him! Every time we're together is like the first time, and we're going on a year together. He gives me that Junior High butterfly feeling.... Obviously with a much more adult emotional attachment.

When I wake-up I think of him until I go to sleep. I just have to be careful not to talk during my dreams.... I've had sexual dreams with MM, and DH has said that I giggle in my sleep!

Funny you posted this because I was thinking I was the only one that thought like this....being a woman. lol

jen

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 9:25pm
I know what you mean!! I want MM all the time! I'm always fantasizing about him, especially when H and I are at it. I've lost a lot of my sex drive for H, but seem to always want MM. I dont' feel like I've had the luxury of exploring sex with MM and exploring his body so I think about him all the time! Argh it can get frustrating, especially when it's so long between sometimes.

IBC