We got busted!!!! (What to do now?)

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We got busted!!!! (What to do now?)
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 12:39pm
Yup we got busted, well it al so happens that my "MM" was away out of town and his "W" went through his e-mails she found the password and all well he has all my e-mails archived and she went through every single one of them and she now knows everything just everything and she e-mailed me and told me that i ruined her marriage and that she is now willing and determan to ruin mine that she wants to meet me to talk.

Well i have not spoken to "MM" I am assuming that he must be on complte "Lowjack Security" therefore he has not called me or nothing so what to do now????? please i need some feedbacks ASAP...

Thanks girls,

MaruBaby

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 1:45am
MAR,




Edited 9/19/2003 12:21:28 PM ET by lexylew

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 11:17am
Lexylew,

Thanks a million for your words.. you know what you are so right i think that the best thing to do is really get this over with and now. You know what "I miss him but not to make a really big deal about it i know that its going to be a while before i can really get over him we use to spend "EVERYDAY" talking to eachother at least call for 2 min to say "Goodmorning" but i think all that is workable Right?"

Well all those things that his "W" said sound so true though that i find it hard to believe that she would make all these things up but then again he use to tell me how "Psycho" she was and all the things that she use to tell my "MM" but like "W" says if he is so miserable with me why does he not leave me??? Yeah why doesn't he???

Well its monday and i know she's going to e-mail me any minute now she's back at work and i know hes is going to call honestly i really hope that he does not call anymore i rather leave things like this...(Do i really????") No i want him to call i want to tell him all that his wife said and just to tell him that everything was great while it lasted and that all this has come to its END ......

You know what if his "W" e-mails me back i will tell her what you suggested me to say that "I am leaving my "MM" alone but that i don't want to hear anything else from there lifes.. actually you know what when i replied to her yesturday i did tell i told her that "I was not going to contact him at all anymore but to make sure he does the same"

so i guess we will see what happens now i am going to try to make things work for me and my "H" i mean i still have him right....(Sounds bad) well its the truth so i mines well let all my fustrution out on him(but in a good way=)

well i will keep you all posted on anything if it happens.

Maru
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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 12:15pm
jdreamer...

Well I have no idea y he asked her...I guess consideration maybe no clue...I dont know if he asked her he just said he wanted a divorce and she was like no she wants to try to work things out. He said he just did not want to be married to her. In reality I dont know. I did talk to his W and she did tell me I know MM does not want to be married to me but in the eyes of God he is my husband and I wanna keep it that way. So now basically he is still with her becuase according to him she is having postpardum and suicidle thoughts. I think its a lame excuse and I told him that she will use that as long as she knows she can keep you. She called me this weekend as a matter of fact and demanded me to leave H alone. I told her hell NO. I told her he does not love you and does not want to be with you I said you and your games are keeping him there you cant keep a man who does not want to be kept. I said W open your eyes he DOES NOT LOVE YOU. She was like thats not your business you need to stay away...I told her I tried to back away MM does not want me to and she said you did not do a good job in trying to back away I said you know what he so called your H and your his W have some control over him and tell him not to call me she said I did I said well I guess you got your answer. She was like just dont answer his calls...I said NO I will answer and talk to who I want. I said get a grip over yourself...snap into reality you cant keep him against his will. I said I will not stop messing with him unless it comes from him. I said so I appreciate it you dont call me next time I will call the cops your harrassing me...I hung up. I mean woman is crazy...I told MM he had to take grip over her and get rid of her...Im sure he is scared of his newborn. I DONT KNOW...but I dont plan to be around more the 6months. in March will be a year since we have been together...if no changes by then its OVER between us. I have told him that...Im not giving him more time....im moving on.



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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 2:02pm
tx,

You sound so angry in this thread. If this woman is unstable, leave her alone. Leave him alone. It sounds more like a battle of wills than an actual love affair.

Just back off for awhile. Leave them be.

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 2:58pm
Oh trust me I was angry when I was talking to her. I have always been very nice to her...but yesterday she caught me waking up on the wrong side of the bed! I felt bad for her not anymore...dont feel bad for stupidity and blindness. I was straight up honest with her I told her facts not lies I know the truth hurts and I am a very blunt person. But things are good between MM and me...as long as she does not come around. And I did tell him next time she calls me I will be rude. I was with MM on Saturday night from like 5pm to 2:am she called me 7times...and him 18 times before the movie and 21 while we were at my house. We left our phones in the car so thats how come I know the exact number of calls.

As far as me being resentfull oh NO im not unhappy...she just drives me crazy sometimes! I did tell her not to call me ever again she got my answer im not backing away. Its up to her to get her H to leave me.

But like I said in some of my previous post its and an email I sent him today IF I dont see change soon im out. I said its her or its me.

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