We made love for the first time
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| Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:26pm |
Our first two meetings were talking and heavy "making out" as we used to call it. It was wonderful. The third time we finally made love. Unfortunately, it wasn't great. I wasn't well lubed, and we had a bit of a problem. (Haven't had sex with spouse in 7 years!!!) I don't even think I was as turned on as I was with the petting.
Now I'm afraid that he will lose interest now that the awful/wonderful anticipation has been replaced by a less than perfect memory. He says it was fine, and he should have thought to bring a lubricant, and that he can't perform like he used to, either. It never occurred to me that I might need it-never had this problem before. Last time I had sex was before menopause!
Our situation is impossible anyway, we both know that. We do love each other though-at least he says so. I think of him constantly, can't eat or sleep. I never thought I would feel this way again. We enjoy each other so much, and were good friends when we knew each other before.
I'm not sure what my point is, but I almost wish we hadn't had sex. I don't know when we'll see each other again-not for several months at least, I imagine. I'll be talking to him this week, maybe tomorrow. I don't really want to talk about it any more with him-don't want to "talk it to death" as I said to him. But I want to find out if his ardor has cooled.
I can't talk about this with anyone in my life, so I could use some cyber shoulders.
Thanks

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Just think.... he was probably just as nervous as you and had fears of his own < I think that's perfectly natural. I haven't actually dealt with the menopause thing and such but I was really worried about just how I thought I may have *changed* since the last time I was with my MM (22 then, 34 now & 2 kids later) <<< I nearly worried myself to death over nothing. Next time, you'll know to bring some lube, like you said and maybe then...you won't even need it :) Good Luck to you and let us know how it goes!
PR
The first time me and my OM did it, he came right away the minute I made the slightest noise. I think he's still embarrassed about it even though we have quite a good track record now. I was flattered actually. The best we've had was actually the latest. I say don't give up it can only get better and better! Good luck!
Edited 8/24/2003 3:39:16 PM ET by derrygirl
PR
I didn't jump up and run out ... but just to tease him the next time I was REALLY loud!
I'm single and with a MM and we have been together 3 years, we have known each other for about 8 years before we got together and we went horseback riding 3 times just talking before we had sex, and it was awful too,but now it awesome and just gets better each and everytime.
We have never brought up the first time, so please try not to let it get you down, it will get better.
I have to agree with the others! It just keeps getting better. I've been in EMA with MM for almost 3 years. I never dreamed the sex would be this good. Like you, I have not been intimate with H for a very long time. The first time was good, but we were at an out of town work conference and both drank a little too much. My guess is we did to work up the nerve to start this A since neither of us are big drinkers. I think that we both knew it was going to happen that night. Unfortunately, he kept having to go to the bathroom while I tried to keep the bed from spinning! He "got there", I didn't. But the next night, the earth moved! We laugh about the first time now and cherish the fact that it keeps getting more exciting and better each time.
I'll bet next time is great!
Hugs to you
RH
One more post before I go back to work!! Men are pretty simple creatures - no matter what the sex was like the first time, chances are he will want to try it again! ...Especially if he is feeling something for you. That ardor will build up again. Good luck!
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