We made love for the first time

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Registered: 08-24-2003
We made love for the first time
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Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:26pm
THis is my first post and my first affair. We are both married and in our 50s. We found each other again after not seeing each other for many years. It was instant magic and love. He lives far away. We've seen each other 3 times in the last month, and spoken often and long on the phone.

Our first two meetings were talking and heavy "making out" as we used to call it. It was wonderful. The third time we finally made love. Unfortunately, it wasn't great. I wasn't well lubed, and we had a bit of a problem. (Haven't had sex with spouse in 7 years!!!) I don't even think I was as turned on as I was with the petting.

Now I'm afraid that he will lose interest now that the awful/wonderful anticipation has been replaced by a less than perfect memory. He says it was fine, and he should have thought to bring a lubricant, and that he can't perform like he used to, either. It never occurred to me that I might need it-never had this problem before. Last time I had sex was before menopause!

Our situation is impossible anyway, we both know that. We do love each other though-at least he says so. I think of him constantly, can't eat or sleep. I never thought I would feel this way again. We enjoy each other so much, and were good friends when we knew each other before.

I'm not sure what my point is, but I almost wish we hadn't had sex. I don't know when we'll see each other again-not for several months at least, I imagine. I'll be talking to him this week, maybe tomorrow. I don't really want to talk about it any more with him-don't want to "talk it to death" as I said to him. But I want to find out if his ardor has cooled.

I can't talk about this with anyone in my life, so I could use some cyber shoulders.

Thanks

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Registered: 08-24-2003
Tue, 08-26-2003 - 8:34pm
Yes, you're right, my sweetheart wants me still. Since we are not Spring chickens, there are lots of things for us to talk about and get to know each other about. That's the good thing about being, uh, mature, we are not embarrassed to talk about things. I love him, and he loves me. That this can happen now, is beyond a dream.

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