wedding rings

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Registered: 12-18-2008
wedding rings
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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 7:25am

Last night I had date with AP#1. 'Afterward' we were just dozing a little and he was fondling my fingers like he does. He's very touchy, I just love it. Then he said he had a question and I said sure. And he asked, why do you wear your wedding rings when you're with me?

It surprised me because we don't talk about our M's or anything - it's strictly FWB. I kind of fumbled with an answer because I hadn't even thought about the rings. I only take them off for certain things like cooking or cleaning. I'd be scared to take them off other times. What if I lost them? H would notice and I don't need those kinds of questions.

For you girls who are M, how do you handle this? Do you wear wedding rings on dates with AP?

-jana

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Registered: 02-14-2009
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 10:10am
I always wear my wedding ring.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 10:27am

I have not always worn my wedding ring...however I had a very good reason not to wear it and I was not wearing it around H either.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 12:34pm
good post...lol..not married but my XAP was of course..he used to take them off with me all the time..and if he forgot he would put his hand in his pocket or excuse himself to the bathroom and take it off and say he had to take a call and go put it in his car somewhere...uhmmm like i didn't notice it was on when he would arrive...i noticed everything about him..but, i never threw it up in his face and never mentioned it to him as to not embarrass him ...and i'm sure he took his rings off as to not throw his m up in my face...or maybe he wanted to feel single and free at some times..who knows..but out of respect for me he took it off all the time...and would scramble fumble scramble to get it off if he forgot....i used to think it was funny well because it's like hey dude, i know you're married and uhmmm i never asked you to take it off.....lol

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Registered: 10-23-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:21pm

Take mine off - put them in my wallet and then put them back on after we go our separate ways. Never really gave much thought as to why I take them off and he doesn't wear one

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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:33pm

He always takes his off and puts it on his key chain! I actually asked him one day about it LOL.. I prefer he take it off, because I love to live in our 'fantasy" world and not remember about his W.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 6:57pm
Great to hear girls' perspective on this! My AP's take on it is completely the opposite of what you all are saying. Don't get me wrong because we click on many levels, but when it comes to the wedding ring she wants mine and hers off. He rational is that wearing our rings is the worst disrespect for our spouses.
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Registered: 12-19-2008
In reply to: janamich67
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 9:01pm

We wear ours, I'd prefer to not lose it and the easiest way to do that is to keep it on!