Weekend getaway...need help

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Weekend getaway...need help
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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 4:00pm

Hello Everyone,


My bf and I do not live together but we talk all the time and spend almost every weekend together.

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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 6:04pm
Wow, I have been away with AP and it is fantastic, but I would never dare to have gone one place and said I'd been to another. What if something happened (unlikely but possible) how do you explain not being where you said you were?
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pisces
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Mon, 12-01-2008 - 6:28pm
Why not say it's in Vegas. I don't know your boyfriend, but my husband would definitely be like "bring me back something from Ellis Island" or whatever. What's wrong with saying it's in Vegas?
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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 12:21am

I agree with one poster. Why can't you say it's in Vegas. Lots of business trips are to Vegas.

That being said, I am just curious as to why you have to sneak around anyway, considering that you are neither married nor living with someone. You have a bf, but obviously, he must not be "the one", or you wouldn't be stepping out on him. Why put yourself in the position of having to sneak around when you could just tell him you want to see other people? Is it that you don't want him to? Or something else? I'm just curious. Not judging, just curious.

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 9:36am

Hi Sillyme,


You have a good question.

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:02am

So what will you say if you are seeing by his friends in Vegas? Do you know them? Would they recognize you? Its a long shot, but stranger things have happened and you *might* just get caught. I've been on the other side of the world and bumped into people I know from home. You're treading on a thin line by saying your somewhere else and compounding that with a *possibility* of being seen.

I'm with the previous poster. Its really hard to be 'working' on your relationship when you're going to be flying away with some other guy. I really think you should end your relationship with your BF. Then, go away with your AP no strings attached. I'm not saying this to be cruel, but when you think of the big picture your relationship with BF has serious red flags. Its built upon lies and deceipt from when he first cheated on you and now you're returning the favor. You may love each other but can you really see yourselves growing old and grey with one another? If so, think twice before getting on that plane.

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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 11:23am

His friends in Vegas have never seen me.

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Registered: 02-22-2008
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 11:42am

well girl, you've had lots of advice. Doesn't the fact that everybody is saying "don't say your're going to one place when you're going to another" tell you something at all ?

The more lies you tell, the easier it is to get caught. You have to learn to lie really well when you're in an A. Nobody in here will recommend something that is stupid, and sorry - telling him you're going to New York when you're going to Vegas is plain stupid. There is no way you can pull this off without potential problems. Thats MHO.

But since you don't want to listen to that. What do you need advice for ?
You have already decided what you'll do. My advice is:

1. Learn do lie very well, you'll need it
2. Pack clothes you would use in New York. (Meaning you will melt in Vegas ...)
3. Make sure you don't have any receipts, boarding cards, tickets or anything that can place you in Vegas with you when you come back
4. Learn to lie moore
5. Stay indoors the whole time
6. If you go out, hope you don't get involved in an accident or die
7. Don't use credit cards or ATMS
8. Did I mention you need to learn to lie very well ??
9. Order city maps, guidebook and souvenirs from NYC online... Remember to bring with you
10. and of course learn to lie well

Enjoy your trip :)


Edwina
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Registered: 11-17-2008
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 11:45am

When you leave the house, leave your camera in an obvious place to make it look like you forgot it. That way he won't expect pictures.

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Registered: 05-11-2003
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 12:03pm

Okay, I'll stop being so hard headed and listen. LOL!!

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 12:17pm

"I appreciate everyone's concern and giving advice on how I should proceed in my relationship but can I PLEASE

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