Weekends

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Weekends
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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 6:47pm
I really do not like the weekends anymore !! MM spends them with his family and I do not hear from him for the entire weekend. As we get deeper and deeper into this A the weekends become longer and longer. We have 2 weeks of NC coming up which I am sad about but will get thru b/c I will be with friends and have made him a card a day telling him in each card how much I love him and I know that will help him get thru them.

I am not sure how much of this I can tell him ( not b/c I dont want to be honest with him but b/c I dont want to push and look needy ). Any thoughts ?

thanks for listening

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: zookittie
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 7:15pm
Bless your heart. My first thoughts were this: Yep...weekends suck. To a certain extent, that doesn't change. But what you can do is fill it up with activities YOU enjoy and that YOU like doing. Train yourself to think of other things. I use our NC times to either sleep (I work 80+ hours a week) or spend extra time with my kids, since I don't have custody. It's also a good time to periodically - not every week or you'll go crazy - take stock of your situation and honestly assess whether it is still working for you.

If finances allow, take classes in something you enjoy. Catch up on friendships you've allowed to lapse. Go to a movie or a museum or something. Make this YOUR time for YOU. That helped me a lot when our NC times hit me hardest.

Good luck!

Lucky

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Registered: 08-23-2003
In reply to: zookittie
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:27pm
I was thinking of that when I read your post.

We had a very longg conversation on friday. It started with lots of emails, then a IM, then ended with a hour and 1/2 phone conversaton. He said he would call sat or sun & I laughed and said, "It would be good for a change to hear from him on a weekend."

But!! He didn't call. He'll be back to work tomorrow (monday)so we'll pick up where we left off, :).

He too will be off for 2 weeks & I'm dreading it. I haven't mention this upcoming NC, but we have had talks about other ones. I've told him before to not let so many days pass w/o hearing from him. Sometimes he hears, sometimes he doesn't. I'm undecided yet, to mention this one or noT, but I think I probabily will because I think it's good to be open with each other.

You should tell him about it. You would feel better, :)...

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: zookittie
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:38pm
Hi zookittie, sorry to hear you are feeling down, are you single? I think that probably makes it alot harder. I am M and MM also, I will not see him now for 2 weeks either. But I will get thru it. We got together Friday afternoon at our fav. hotel, it was wonderful. But you know what, I feel that if you are single, its really not fair for you. I know what to expect, but you deserve more. Sweety, hope you get thru the holidays okay. And if you are single, hope you find a wonderful SINGLE guy under the mistletoe.

Take care,

Dusty
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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: zookittie
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 10:11am
In the early days of my A, MM used to say he wished he could get in touch with me on weekends. He told me to leave my phone on and he'd call. So I left my cell phone on, turning it off when H was around. That lasted about three weekends, until I figured out he wasn't calling, apparently! It's never been mentioned again. For those who are married I guess it's easier... We settle into the routine of things and before we know it, it's Monday again. But those of you who are single, it has to be tough. Honestly, the NC times are getting easier and easier for me to take. Is that normal? I'm almost looking forward to the two weeks I won't be seeing MM. I feel like during NC times I'm actually more like I used to be back before the A began. I'm not happy, but I'm not unhappy either. Just somewhere in the middle, existing. I have a lot to think about during the long holiday anyway in regards to where I see this thing going in 2004. I think I have some New Years Resolutions to make!