Welcome Newbies!

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Welcome Newbies!
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 7:22am
Over the past few days, I've been noticing how many new members we have on the boards.
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 01-14-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:16am
Let me second that. I hope none of the new members saw my previous thread regarding lurkers and thought it applied to them. I always appreciate new stories and new people who need or want to offer support. I feel the more varied perspectives we have, the better. So welcome and make yourselves at home.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:34am
I'm new! I think I posted for the first time last week. I'm 31, mom of a toddler, and currently involved with the husband of a close friend. We live pretty far apart (2.5 hours) so don't see each other often. NO ONE knows about us, so it's hard not having someone to talk to, so here I am! I am so happy to be in a place where people understand the complexity of the situation.........Nice meeting all of you! KC
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Registered: 04-22-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:47am
I'm new here too. Also involved with a friends husband. Have been friends for 12 years, and the feelings have always been there, we just recently started acting on them. I am so glad to be here, and able to "talk" to everyone about this. It also helps to just read everyone elses posts, knowing that I'm not the only crazy one out there... lol.

Thanks for being here!!!!
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:07am
Welcome KC and WFE......

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 12-09-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 12:41pm
Thank you both for your nice welcome :) I posted my story yesterday, I think, so here's the link if anyone cares to know:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmyaffair&msg=35736.1&ctx=128

Anyway, thanks again for the welcome! It's nice to find a place where I won't be judged and people can relate to what's going on in my life. :)

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:17pm
Welcome aboard everyone!
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 04-22-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 2:43pm
Thanks,

I posted last week. Way toooo long story on there. Sorry for that. Just reading your posts give me so much help. I will try to post more often, but I'm still at that weird paranoid phase where I feel as if by posting I'm going to get caught. For example, last week I was training a new co-worker and we had to look at my computer. I noticed that the minimized window was named my affair support. Now I'm thinking of ways to bring up that I'm having a party (affair) and was looking for advice in case he happened to notice. LOL

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 3:45pm
Hi, all.. I'm new too. I've only been on the board for a few days, but you probably all know my story already. My love and I have been friends for almost 4 years, lovers for two and a half, soulmates forever. He's not leaving his wife and kids (teens) and I'm OK with that. I'm friends with his wife and kids. I'm a single mom of one teenage girl. He and I have wonderful times together; his family and my family do a lot of fun stuff together; he and his wife and I hang out a lot together. I think she suspects but doesn't want her world rocked and would rather have him and me close to her than lose him or have him involved in something she can't see. He and I had a committment ceremony that recognized our unusual situation, and I wear his wedding ring. My feeling is that if he's going to remain living at home, and we can still have our relationship, then he should be as happy as possible at home. I don't want to think that he's miserable under his own roof. He deserves joy. Of course, if he leaves, I'll welcome him with open arms and all the love in my heart. But he's got that anyway, no matter what the circumstances. The way I get through any difficulty with the situation (the occasional lonely night or jealous feeling or frustration) is by reminding myself of a passage from 1 Corinthians: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." Thank you all for this forum. I'm looking forward to getting to know you.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:37pm
Wow, Blade, what an unusual situation, and what a lovely quote...

I'm also new, I'm a MW involved with a MM. Our families don't know each other, we were complete strangers and we met through an introduction service for people who WANT to have an A. I know that sounds very horrible...but the good thing about it is/was, we are on the exact same page about everything: we're both happily married (him for 30 years! me for more than 10). We will both stay married to our respective spouses as long as they'll have us...but we just needed more...we have been involved for 8 months now and I think that even after the A is over, we'll always be friends. He describes having met me as a "needle in a haystack" phenomenon...on my side, it was pretty much love-at-first-sight...but even so, there is so much about an A that is a big adjustment, and there is nobody to talk to. So I'm grateful that you guys are here. :)

barefoot

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 04-28-2004 - 6:47am
Hi there NRY & everyone.

I'm kind of a newbie here, posted for the first time ages ago, then again recently in the haze of my reality when I was and probably still am, struggling to find a way forward.

I was really generous with the truth recently - to cut a long story short, I ended my 4 year affair with my MM (I'm 24 - he's 58) and he turned violent towards me and hit me quite badly...I am recovering from two fractured ribs and multiple bruising to my body.

He never hit me on my face.

This isn't the first time he's marked me either.

I am getting loads of support and I am safe now and away from him.

Just wanted to say about the irony, finding this board and needing advice (I always lurk and cry and laugh with everyone on the board) now I shouldn't be here as I'm not in an affair anymore.

I guess its a case of Hi and Bye.

Anyway, hope you're all hanging on in there.

Love & light to all.

S. xx

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