We'll I was right.....he called

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Registered: 10-24-2008
We'll I was right.....he called
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Wed, 12-03-2008 - 6:50pm

I hate it when I'm right. AP did just what I thought he would. He absorbed what I said, retreated, formed a plan, and then put the plan in motion. He had everything he wanted to say ready.

His main claim is that I am looking at things on an emotional level, when this is strictly about finances. He said that sometimes we make plans but they don't always work exactly the way that we wanted them to. Then he used the example of me not being a Lieutenant by now. He said that I had set goals for myself, but due to whatever circumstances I haven't completed my goal, but that doesn't mean that it won't happen in the future. I wanted to tell him that that was part in partial due to him, but I didn't.

I just told him that I have an appointment w/ a counselor in January because I realize I can not move past this by myself, but that I WILL move on. I told him (not in an angry way) that I was sorry that I ever met him. I told him that I was tired of being his dirty secret, and that I deserve so much more than that. It was difficult at times during the phone call because I could hardly speak from crying, but after he said his peace, I said mine, and then I told him I should go.

I cried for about an hour after we hung up, but I am ok now. I know one thing for sure, NC is the only way to go. I was fine before he called, so now I know what I have to do. Just thought I'd keep you ladies up w/ the latest breaking news lol.

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 6:58pm

::: big hugs :::


At least you somewhat anticipated this, kwim? I'm really proud of you for being able to stay strong even though I'm sure it was very hard. If NC is going to keep you sane, do it. I'll be thinking of you.

 

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 7:24pm
I am so proud of you for having a counseling appointment scheduled for January.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2007
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 8:52pm

Hugs Justice....


You are brave and smart because you schedule an appointment, you told him what you had to say. I am very very proud of you. Reading your story remind me that so many of us will come to the point where you are at right now....I am terrified of thinking about it....


I am with you.....come talk to us if you need someone to listen...It is very tough to handle everything on your own.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2008
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 11:08pm
Good for you, honey.
Carrrrrried...away2
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 7:54am

Good job Justice girl!!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 2:14pm

Hi sweetie -


I just wanted to echo everyone else and tell you how damn proud I am of you (sniff - feel like a proud mom here!!)

lightning in my heart