Well there is this guy at work......

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Well there is this guy at work......
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Mon, 11-10-2008 - 3:35pm

So it is no secret to anyone that DH and I are having marital problems. I feel neglected, unloved, used, abused. I feel like maid who also performs bedroom duties. Yes I have talked to DH about how I feel, it usually gets better for a few days and then back to same old, same old.


So there is this guy at work. Funny, smart, decent looking, boyish charm, actually talks to me, gives two cents about what I have to say. We talk about alot of stuff. We have even talked about intimate stuff. He is single and about 10 years older than me.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:13pm

I don't advocate affairs, no matter how long the list of justifications...just know that an affair in the workplace is the absolute pits when it turns sour; and chances are good it will, and there will be no escape from the torment and angst for 8 hours a day...5 days a week.


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Registered: 11-02-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:22pm
Forgive me, but I'm so curious to know what he is doing on that computer.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:28pm

That's exactly what I was gonna ask!


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Registered: 11-28-2007
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:49pm

If it's anything like what my AP/now BF was doing for months - it was having an EA with ME!!


Brown-Eyed-Momma - no one meant to be harsh at all

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 2:58pm
When he is on the computer he is on MySpace, Craigslist, downloading music, surfing. I also know that he looks at porn on the net (that is an entirely different situation/pet peeve).

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Registered: 02-09-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 7:35pm

BEM, I didn't mean to be harsh either, sorry if it came off this way. I just wanted to warn you that it is harder than you could ever imagine before getting into an A.

Pisces




Edited 11/23/2008 8:48 pm ET by pisces2008
pisces
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Registered: 10-01-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 8:10pm

Uh huh... yes, I understand "he's there, but not there" communication breakdown.

Pink Passion Flower

 

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 9:35am

I want to thank everyone for the words of wisdom and responses. Right now I am tabling this decision. I will not do anything more to complicate the situation I am in. I am also not running the other way either. I want to thank you ladies for sharing your experiences and situations with me.


I think for now I will just hang around the boards and just read and learn and I might post some more.

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