Well we didn't get together last night -

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Well we didn't get together last night -
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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 1:33pm
but tonight we will - after work - does anyone else get crazy nervous right before meeting up - not just the risk factor, which for me is fairly safe - it will be our 5th time in less than a month and it's just so exciting I can't stand it.

on another note: he insists that it is only sexual for him, no emotions. We've been friends for 4 years and have always talked a lot. We went out Friday night and had a great time: talking, laughing, joking with no sex at all - just a good night kiss. We go to lunch together about 3 times a week and sometimes don't even kiss then - just hang out and enjoy each other's company. I told him if it was just about sex then he should stop trying to be my friend ;-) I find myself falling for him though and I am wondering if I should stop before it gets out of hand - he has said he'd be happy if it lasted for "years and years". He's not married, but engaged. He jokingly calls me his girlfriend but has a problem saying anything "sweet" to me since we aren't a "couple" - his words - this is all so new to me...I've been with my DH for 9 years and never dreamed I'd be in this situation.

Just needed to vent a little since I can't talk to anyone else about this, which by the way is KILLING me!!

T's Secret

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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 2:59pm

hi ts secret.

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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 3:20pm
LOL! You are soooo right!! His GF is younger than us (by about 11 years) and we grew up in the same town, have kids the same age, we are the same age, we both enjoy talking about sports etc...so we have a lot in common to "talk" about that I don't think he gets at home. and she isn't willing to do the things he wants/needs in that other department ;-) and he has all of that with me. So I think you're right, he's holding back and not saying much - maybe that will change with time. The way he holds me tells me everything though.

T's Secret

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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 3:25pm
Well, I hope you have a Great time tonight. Trust me I understand about the whole can't beleive "I'm doing this, either" thing. I've been with my H for 13 years, who would have thunk it:) Good luck and give us all a update tomorrow! NMR
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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 3:40pm
Hope you enjoy yourself as much as I enjoyed myself this afternoon (wink). I was a bad girl but it was so good!!!

I'm also in a "sex only" relationship. But wow, when we're together, its awesome!!

He is very addicting. I think he is addicted to me too (after 2 years). Have a wonderful night!!

Dusty
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 9:59am
well it's amazing what 30 minutes will do - wow!

we had a great time - I just wish we could have had longer to spend together, it's always so rushed. but I'm not complaining!! he is wonderful and I tell him so even though he won't say it to me I can see it in his eyes.

today I am having lunch with a close friend today and I am SO afraid I am going to tell her - I know she would never say anything to anyone and she doesn't even know my dh so she couldn't tell him but I know how risky it is....and OM would kill me if I told - they know each other since we used to all work together.

*sigh*

T's Secret

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 10:24am

hey ts secret -- honey, keep your A to yourself or at least don't tell this woman friend.

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