We've been caught............

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Registered: 01-20-2004
We've been caught............
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 3:27pm
Okay, I knew this was going to happen....we've been caught. Since I am friends with his W and he is friends with my H it was bound to happen (plus we live one street away, our kids are in school together, and we all went to HS in this city). I don't even know the extent of it either because it apparently happened this morning. I seperated from my H last week and got an apt where we have been seeing each other. He has broken it off with W two days ago but is still living there. There are 5 children under the age of 6 involved here! From what I have gathered from the screaming voice mails my stb-ex H has been leaving me she checked his phone when he was in the shower this morning and saw my 3am phone call to him. Of course she called my stb ex immediately...b!tch! Then she called me at work and I didn't know what he'd told her so I just hung up on her (real slick, I know). I later emailed her and apologized for hanging up and told her my boss was standing there and I have just gotten in trouble for getting too many personal calls at work. I am supposed to meet OM for lunch today but I don't know if he will be able to show up now. I know that we are both currently split up from our spouses right now but we wanted to keep it a secret still for the sake of the kids and because we have both betrayed friends by being together. I am a little ticked off at him though because from the sound of it he tried to push the whole thing on me and say he doesn't know why I called him at 3am! Liar! He better take half the blame here and not make it look like I was trying to get into his pants....hello, I've been in them numerous times and it was definitely mutual!!!!!!!!!! Shouldn't he take half the blame here? Should I be p.o.'d at him for trying to cover his butt and making me look like a villian?!
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 3:52pm

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 3:56pm

hey karen -- are you ticked off because his W found out, because

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 6:18pm
Wow... ugly all the way around, but he probably just panicked too. Like you slamming down the phone. Take a deep breath, let it out slowly... then cover, cover, cover. Don't admit to anything, take the stance that you have done nothing wrong, you guys are friends, both going through the same things... yada yada yada. If that doesn't work -- oh well -- it's a free country right. Hugs aimed your way. SSis
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 10:12am
Here's an update:

Being the professional liar that I am I covered our tracks. We met for lunch, as planned, and discussed it. I found out what he said to her and then went from there. The funny thing is she drove by when we were having lunch yesterday! We were sitting outside (hee hee). Anyway, I think that she and my stb ex H have their suspicion but no proof. Oh, and for the one who asked why in the world I called him at 3 am...he was on his way to my apt. He hasn't been sleeping at home since they split up (although he still lives there). He has been sleeping at my place but she thinks he's sleeping at a friends. And I totally understand that he was just trying to cover his tracks, it's just really frustrating. I hate the sneaking around, lying, etc. I told him again yesterday that maybe we should stop seeing each other for a while, until his situation is straightened out and he said no way. He didn't want to stop seeing me. So, we'll see where it goes from here.....

So if he leaves her for good and I leave my H for good (which I have done) does that mean I have to find a different message board? LOL!

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 10:14am
Yeah, just make sure you get a new name. Thy don't like us "sluts" in other boards there...
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 10:55am
He was sleeping at his friends! LOL... and if you move boards we'll have to hunt you down and interrogate you (hee hee)... You sound a lot more in control, Karen. Good job!
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Thu, 02-12-2004 - 12:43pm

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