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We've Rekindled our R... ;)
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 12:29pm

well since last Thursday, AP#1 has been calling me every day just about.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 3:48pm
Let me ask you, you think its ok to call a person a name, such as a sick ticket. I cant relate to most of the posters on here just simply because of the attitudes.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 3:50pm

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 3:58pm

Honestly Tori - I do think she's sick - in the clinical term.

 

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 4:05pm
I dont think any one would like it if their partner was doing that. Thats neither here nor there. Its wrong to to call posters names, period. Its wrong to judge them about their own marriage. Its not for you to say wether x person is marriage material. Maybe their marriage is great.its plain rude.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 4:20pm
Having an affair(s) does NOT equal a great marriage.... PERIOD. Its not judgement..its fact.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 5:13pm
Not everyone who does stray has a bad marriage. Many people who do stray happen to be haapy with in their marriage. It may be a little extra spice is needed. With my situation with my father, i consider myself lucky i never took it with me into my adult life what happened to me as a young girl. If i did, i would not be able to live my life as a productive adult. I had to learn to go beyond it. I will admit i the first years of intimacy with my husband i was frigged, then with time it became better. Now thheres barely none, only duty sex when he gets crazy. Im not into it with him.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 5:31pm

It is IMPOSSIBLE to be HAPPILY married and have an affair...no way now how. I do not care how you spin it. You just validated what Tell said...that's good . You were on the Fridget end.

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Registered: 01-18-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 5:36pm

What world do you reside in where you could possibly think that a marriage in which one of the partners is being sexually promiscuous with multiple partners could even remotely be described as "great"? And no, I don't think one could be described as marriage material if they are not capable of keeping their pants on outside of the relationship to the extent that she does. And to talk about it the way she does, as if she were discussing buying a roast at the store. Quite frankly, I'm surprised that anyone on this board would find her references to loving the thought of him sitting next to his wife and thinking about her, how she loves the power of that, as something cool to say. That just crosses a line of decency that most of the women on here do not. THAT was rude and not funny at all.

I'm sorry, you may not see it, but I do believe she has some huge issues that are simmering underneath all the sexual bravado. You're right, I probably shouldn't have called her a sick ticket. It's just a phrase. But I hear what you're saying. What I don't understand is it's 2009. AIDS and other sexual diseases have been around for quite some time. Kids in high school learn about this stuff. So I find it extremely irresponsible and reckless for a grown woman to be sleeping around like that and exposing her husband to that risk. If she wants to mess around with every Tom, Dick and Harry that comes around, so be it. But I still stand by my statement that she probably shouldn't be married then. Marriage is about committing to ONE person. That's what it is! Why be married if you're not capable of living up to the committment? Why do it? Why live a lie? I read on another board a term which really applies here. She's playing her husband for a chump. If it were a guy people were talking about here, people would think he was a real scumbag. If not, read some of the posts where the AP has another AP. See what people say. How is this woman any different, I ask?

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Registered: 01-18-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 6:27pm
Spicing up a marriage is adding vibrators or toys or different positions or whatnot. It's not going outside of it to have sex with others. Spicing up a marriage requires communication with your spouse and a committment to improve things. Not having an affair and communicating with someone else. I'm not saying that those that stray are bad people. It happens, I know, I've been there. But let's be real here. An affair actually helping a marriage is very, very rare.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 6:56pm

What you said!!!!!!!


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