We've Rekindled our R... ;)

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Registered: 12-15-2003
We've Rekindled our R... ;)
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 12:29pm

well since last Thursday, AP#1 has been calling me every day just about.

~k

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Registered: 01-18-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 3:34pm

No, I don't think we've ever "spoken". I've lurked here for a long time, but rarely post. I used to a long time ago when I was in an affair. I did have a different moniker back then, but can't remember what it was, to be honest.

I am a blunt person, to be sure, and I know sometimes I can maybe be too blunt. Thanks for the reminder to keep an eye on that. But my goal is always to get people to see the forest for the trees.

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Registered: 01-18-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 3:37pm
I'm sorry, but I stand by my statement. People who are incapable of being faithful are not marriage material, in my book. If you knew that your husband was sleeping around with different partners, would you have considered him marriage material? Marriage, by it's definition, is two people in a committed relationship. Not one person committed and the other so not.
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 5:01pm

I feel that you are coming across too heavy handed on the board.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 8:55pm
it would depend on the circumstances. that's a sincere answer.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:05pm
i spend the much time and energy almost everytime i leave the house. yes, call me vain, i care very much on how i look to other people. i didn't want to appear fat to him. i'm very much in shape, have been almost all my life. i'm very high into run ning, sprinting, and weight training. when i lost my job, depression set in, and i started to eat and eat. i gained over 10 pounds and looked horrible. i didn't want him to notice that. maybe he doesn't want to have sex now, neither do i. sex is a fleeting feeling. you bump and grind for 10 seconds, friendships are special that last 4-ever. he sent me an email that said thank you so much for caring, and i trust you with my life. that brought tears to my eyes. that's what i look foward to. those special messages and lunches.
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Registered: 01-16-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:13pm

You know what? I'm all for telling it like it is, but she just posted a deep, and revealing post. One that I could feel as I read it. That was a first for her as far as I know. So she said what you wanted her to say, and you ripped her a new bunghole, so let it go. You can't "fix" her, and she has fessed up and admitted that she has issues, so for you to repeat your earlier performance was unnecessary. You read her the riot act, and yes you did echo the thoughts of many of us here, and kudos to you for doing so, because like you said no one else had the guts to do it. But enough is enough, just leave her be.

Justice

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Registered: 01-16-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 9:21pm

I actually posted my other reply before I read your post, but I SO agree w/ you. She is WAY to heavy handed, and doesn't have the warmth of a brick. How can one stand there and berate, beat down, and attack someone for doing the same thing you CLAIM to have done before? Maybe there wasn't as many partners, but in the end does one deluded themselves into thinking that they will be any better in the eyes of God? For real, enough is enough.

Justice

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 12:25am

Hi Kimmie,


Please let me know if my reply to you is inappropriate.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 5:35am
I wanted to reply to you and say how sorry i am about your loss. Take care and god bless.
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Registered: 12-15-2003
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 8:39am

tori, i dont see anything wrong with asking people what to wear.

~k

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