We've Rekindled our R... ;)

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We've Rekindled our R... ;)
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 12:29pm

well since last Thursday, AP#1 has been calling me every day just about.

~k

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 10:48am
Kimmie thank you very very much. I value every moment i get with my ap or xap. Im the type of person if i see something i dont like, i let it be known. I dont think like the norm, follow whats popular, have a bunch of friends. Im a loner and follow the beat of my own drum. As you can see about thirty five percent of the people on here dont like the way i think. It works for me. I love the friendship that my ap or xap and i have. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 11:22am

Jen -


I just wanted to say how sorry I am for yours and your childrens loss - the death of a parent is always difficult -but for it to be at his own hand, while your children are young - I can't imagine anything more difficult to work through.


Sending you and the kids tons of love and I hope that you find the strength to carry you through these dark days to the light on the other side.


God bless you and your family -


Lynn


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Registered: 01-18-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 11:43am

I did not rip her a new, as you called it, bunghole. And if you truly believed in telling it like it is, you would be saying the same thing I did. Sometimes people need to hear something that others don't have the balls to say. To me, it's alarming to hear that someone has attempted suicide over A's, but is still entrenched in the same behavior. I would even go so far as to say that I probably care more than most on this thread in that I will confront rather than saving face or not wanting to fall out of favor with the crowd. I do care about her, even if she doesn't see it. If I didn't care, I would just remain quiet and talk about, I don't know, what I'm going to wear tomorrow. Fact is only one other person besides me has commented on the suicide attempts. Too busy finding fault with me to even hear what she is saying. I happen to be concerned about her. Sexual addictions are not to be taken lightly. Fact is, I had a friend who died because of hers. And if something I say can light a fire under Iluv's behind, then by golly I'll say it. I'll gladly take the fall and be seen as a meanie if it saves even one person's life. For someone who works in a field where you see people suffering huge consequences for their behavior, you seem to really be missing the boat.

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Edited 1/21/2009 12:40 pm ET by tellithowitis
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Registered: 01-18-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 12:05pm

Look, I don't care if you want to primp and fluff and look all sexy for your xAP, current AP (whatever it is, you call him both). What I care about is that you call a spade a spade. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck, it's a duck. If the guy was truly just a friend to you, you wouldn't be afraid to show up not dolled up. It's just a fact. Why you cannot seem to admit to what's truly going on here is beyond me. I really don't get it. Ok, you're just friends. But mark my words....you are going to show up here on this board down the road with a post where you're really upset because your "friend" isn't giving you the attention you want, or your "friend" doesn't want to continue the "friendship" anymore, or your "friend" is having a baby with his wife or whatever the case will be. And when that time comes, I want you to remember what I've said to you. When you no longer come on this board to post about HIM, your relationship with HIM, how much you adore HIM is when I will believe that he truly is your "ex" AP. Until that time, I will call it as it is. He may not be your physical AP, but he is most definitely your EAP. I'm sorry if you don't like me saying this. But I just don't believe in enabling someone to not get real. Lightning isn't going to strike you for admitting that he's more than just a friend to you. If that were the case why not invite him over for dinner like you would any other friend?

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Edited 1/21/2009 2:16 pm ET by tellithowitis
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Wed, 01-21-2009 - 12:15pm

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