What About Getting Caught?
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What About Getting Caught?
| Mon, 08-25-2003 - 8:28pm |
What would you do? How can one avoid it? My H has no clue right now, but he's no dummy, and I would be out on my behind if he found out. Of course, he's strayed many times and I forgave him, fool that I am. I'm so besotted, that I don't think I'd care right now, even though I'm in an impossible situation with a married man who lives far away.
Have any of you been in this situation and been able to "get away with it"?

I can say... I've been there... but I'm don't think I got away with it. When I first started my EMA... I guess I was very angry with DH and in being so was very careless as well. About 10 months into my affair... during a counselling session with DH... one in which I was going to suggest a healing separation... for my own reasons... he confronted me with my A.
I was rather stunned... I couldn't not deny it as the facts that he presented me with were just too many... details he knew and what not and I felt that denial would only make matters worse... so I could simply but shrug my shoulders and be done with it.
Although I agreed to stay in my marriage... and promised not to contact MM in any way whatever... I knew that I could not walk away from this man yet.
That was over 2 years ago now... and MM and I are still going strong... and so in many ways... so is my marriage. I realised that I had been putting way to much energy into my A than my marriage... and if I was to keep either one... that had to change. I no longer spent hours at night on the pc... cut down mobile phone messages... and made time to spend with DH.
I think that somehow I've made a balance... I don't think that I give DH anything to be suspicious about and I work on both my relationships in different ways.
The trick to not being caught... is being careful... and as hard as it can be at times... to live a normal and happy homelife.
That's what works for me anyway...
luv and hugs
Sweet
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Good luck
RH
I have been in my EMA since March 2002 and I DO NOT take chances. I only see OM when it's totally justifiable for me to be out and about. We dont go to local restaurants/bars together and we meet in rustic places where we're not likely to run into people we know. I go above and beyond to be sure no suspisions are raised. Of course I would deny, deny, deny but if he started asking me questions, Im certain I would have to cool things off big time indefinately - hurting my DH is not something Im willing to do, it's just not worth that to me...
Better to be safe than sorry!
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