What am I willing to do ????

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Registered: 05-14-2009
What am I willing to do ????
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Thu, 05-28-2009 - 9:56am

Good morning,


You all must be tire of me posting my daily dish with AP but this is the only place I have to talk about my AP.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 10:36am
don't do it! I changed religions for my 1st h, from Christian to Mormon, and it was a HUGE mistake. If he can't accept you the way you are with out the conversion, then you need to get out. Honestly, it sounds like this guy is no good for you. I recommend you start mentally processing him out of your life. let him call you, but don't call him, and don't always pick up when he calls. Get busy in your life, going out with girlfriends (make some if you need to! I did!) and fill in the parts he used to consume. You'll find a great guy, but I don't think this guy has your best interests at heart. Sorry, I hope that doesn't sound harsh, I don't wish this kind of pain on anyone.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 05-28-2009 - 11:18pm
"Can someone really change there belief for someone else ? " Yes,people do it all the time.But do you want to,thats the point.IMO,this guy sounds trouble;)
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Registered: 11-01-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:08am

I would be less hesitant on this if maybe marriage talk had come first, or he'd introduced you to family already... But holding out on everything until you've made such a huge commitment sounds a little hinky... Trust me, my cousin just went through all of that. He had to mostly turn his back on his family (we've seen him exactly three times since he converted well over a year ago), and after spending the holidays traveling to visit her family - all over the country - he realized he didn't want to raise his children without Christmas and Easter and all of the other Christian holidays... So after all that time and money and emotional input, he called off the whole thing... He's still converted, and they're still dating as far as I know but he's now having to come to terms with the full effects of his decision...

I guess what I was trying to say is, conversion isn't something to rush into. And even you really do love your AP (I'm pretty new here so I haven't been following your story) you're going to have to decide if you love him enough to make the sacrifices he's asking for...

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Colleen
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Fri, 05-29-2009 - 11:48pm
i agree i didnt chainge mine and i sisnt exspect wife to chainge