What are the signs he wants an affair?

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Registered: 01-25-2004
What are the signs he wants an affair?
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Sun, 01-25-2004 - 10:27pm
I have a situation that no one has been able to help me with. I currently work with a 40 year old man who recently got engaged. He has been pressued by his friends and family to marry for years. However, if I didn't know any better, he is sending me signals that he wants to physically and emotionally connect with me in a way that is secret between the two of us.

Througout the last year, our contact has gone from hello without physical contact, to kisses on the head, to hours a long in his office just talking. I see him daily and when he is not in the office, he calls me at the office once to twice a week. Within the last month, he has stared calling my cell phone at night when he knows I am at the office working late... just to "chat." Two nights ago, he has asked me to call him... to chat.

We can talk about any and all subjects freely..... it is scary. I am just not sure what he is feeling or if he is just researching to see if he can trust me for future projects. I really like him... and I think my feelings might be chaning. My questions is how to you know for sure that someone is sending you the message they are attracted to you and want to pursue something further? I cannot ask him... and everyday, as things continue to change, I am trying hard not to become attached, but he is making it next to impossible. What are the sure signs and what should I do?

sjohnson2004

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 01-25-2004 - 10:46pm
HI S

I don't know if there are sure signs that apply to every man ,butit sounds like he is up to something, it could have something to do with escapeing his impending M, some people have what is called an exit AFFAIR as a way of getting out of a Relationship, sounds like that could be your case.

What to do put on the breaks tell you know for sure, hold onto your heart A are pretty rough things to be involved with.

I would suggest do not get into a relationship with this man unless he officely ends the engagement, bare in mind what he does to her he can do to you, I am sure she believes he loves her and he has told her so.

Read posts here and on the endings board to get a big picture view of A.

>>""I am just not sure what he is feeling or if he is just researching to see if he can trust me for future projects.""<<< , No way personal calls at home are just that personal not research.

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