What are some of the little things...

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What are some of the little things...
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:52am
... that you love about your OM (that your DH doesn't have/do)?

In my case, I have no problem with PDAs (Public Displays of Affection), as long as there's no sexual touching or rude behaviour. But innocent caressing or kissing, (even making out if no one's watching), I'm completely Ok with, and even like it.

My DH doesn't do that at all anymore. Maybe just a tap on the lips and that's it. He's always worried about who will see. I tell him that we're married, we're in love, who cares about who sees? He's gotten a little uptight about that and I don't like it.

My OM is just like me. He doesn't mind if people see that we care for each other. We could be standing at the line of a fast food restaurant and he'll kiss my cheek, or my neck. He'll caress my hair, he'll hug me, no matter who's watching. He loves for me to do it as well.

Last week we were at a store doing a bit of shopping, and I approached him and kissed him on the lips. He said, "Please, not in public", and then he just grabbed me and started making out with me. I still giggle when I think about it =) I love it when he surprises me like that.

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 9:55am
WOW crazy where do you live that you two can display PUBLIC affection?? Pretty nice! It is interesting that you started this thread. I was just thinking about this this morning and there isn't much between my MM and H as far as affection. I do love the way mm kisses as apposed to my H. H still kisses the old fashion way where MM is more of the Wedding Singer type of kisser. You know half closed half open a little tongue, suck on the bottom lip.... ahhhh . MM is better in bed too, just knows what buttons to push and actually always looks for the G. MM is taller too and I like that he can pick my up (I'm pretty small) and carry me into the bedroom. He has big blue eyes and H has SMALL blue eyes, almost evil looking eyes, so I love looking into MM's eyes. They always look soft and loving.

deedee

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 10:02am
I LOVE the way MM kisses me. There is nothing better!!!! It's so sensual.
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 10:14am
LOL deedee - When we go out together it's usually close to his neighborhood and far from mine. We don't live that far away from each other, but most of our time together we spend at his apartment.

It's funny you said that about your H's and MM's eyes, it's the same with my DH and OM, except they both have brown eyes. DH's eyes are small, evil-looking too! LOL, and OM's eyes are big and dreamy. He melts me when he looks at me, like he can see into my soul, you know? I always blush when he looks at me like that... I feel so exposed LOL

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 10:17am
There are so many things IS does that my W doesn't. Just yesterday, she called me while I was having lunch with my best friend. She didn't keep me long because she wanted me to enjoy my lunch, but she took the time to ask how my friend's children were doing. My W would NEVER have done that.

She also is affectionate in public and I love that. Just holding hands and cuddling and kissing here and there is so nice. And she gives me little gifts all the time and everyone of them is thoughtful and personal. She and I not only have the type of deep, meaningful connection that I have sought my entire life, but she also does all the little things I adore.

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:03am
The kissing thing definitely. We're like a couple of teenagers I swear. We went to an antique mall for a few hours and he's quite a bit taller than me and he occasionally would kiss me on the top of the head. Just the subtle grabbing of a jeans pocket as I walk by and things like that. And the eyes... holy moly he has gorgeous green eyes that I comment on alot. He has a look he gives me every once in a while. I will glance over at him and he kind of squints one eye like he's questioning something. I've brought it to his attention that he does this so it's become a joke between us.

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 12:38pm
The way MM kisses....it's like I had never been kissed correctly before I met him.
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 1:12pm
My MM is so effortlessly romantic. Whenever my H is romantic, it's because I've mentioned that I would like more romance in our marriage and he will try to make an effort at being romantic but it's always an EFFORT. My MM says and does such sweet, romantic things and it just comes to him naturally. For instance, I was on the phone with him yesterday and he said that someone at his office had some of those conversation hearts that you get at Valentine's Day. There was one in there that said "IM Me." (We IM each other all day long. He said once that he would like to kiss the person who invented IM...lol) He said that he wanted to take it and give it to me so that I could put it next to my computer at work. It's such a little thing but it made me smile for the next hour because I knew that I was on his mind and he was thinking of me.

I also love that my MM is affectionate when we're NOT in bed. Like many of you, my H, sweet as he is, doesn't really like to hold hands (never has in the 19 years we've been together) or kiss me in public. So usually when he touches me, I know it's because he wants sex and I find that pretty annoying. My MM strokes my hair, touches my hand, etc. whenever the chance arises. It's wonderful to know that he wants to have that connection with me all the time, not just when he's feeling "randy."

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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 12:13am
He brings me soda when we meet up. A few days ago he met me on my lunch break with a liter bottle of my latest soda craving. He leaves hard candy on my desk when no ones looking. He made me a piece of jewelry right after we started seeing each other.


Edited 5/7/2004 12:40 am ET ET by h12j22r71
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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 12:41pm
I love the affection I get from OM, I am a very affectionate person and he is too so it's nice that we click in that aspect. I love how open he is with me, he has no problems telling me how he feels and is so thoughful. He makes me smile and I love that.

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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 1:01pm
In my MM's mind there is always a tune playing. No matter where we are, he sometimes just grabs me to spin me, or kiss me Hollywood style where he bends me down while he bends over to kiss me. I know that sounds cheesy, but it sweeps me off my feet.

We are big fans of Seinfeld, so he always downloads the episodes one by one and we watch them together. He takes me in his arms while we are watching it. And the last wonderful little thing about him, is that before we go to sleep at night (we go on romantic getaways every 3-4 weeks), he always takes me in his arms for at least 10 minutes to discuss our deepst dreams and fantasies! No matter how embaressing or wacky they are! These ten minutes mean the world to me!