What are you all hoping/wishing for ....

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2008
What are you all hoping/wishing for ....
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 4:06am

Hi well ive been lurking and occasionally posting here for the last 18 months or so. Ive read many ups and downs of others Affairs, nice to read the success stories too. Regardless of my opinion

"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2008
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 8:28pm
I should also add...that I am hoping to end my A.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2006
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 3:01am
Just curious, why do you think yhou have guilt after 9 years of not having guilt? the reason why I ask is becasue i have been in A for for three years and feel no guilt.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2008
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 1:09pm
I've only been in my A for 1.5 years, not 9 years :).
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 2:43pm

what you feel is normal.....it could be a touch of PMS too.....;)

I guess I don't feel guilty because my DH is NOT a nice person. He makes it very easy..although I don't use this as an excuse for doing what I'm doing, at the end of the day I know that it is wrong. I just don't feel guilty about it......AP says he feels guilty sometimes but just knows that he needs me in his life......he has his own guilt issues to work through....I would never expect him to be with me if it were causing him guilt and negativity. I don't want to be that in his life.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 2:47pm
I guess I'm hoping for a sense of peace in the New Year. I want to feel the way that I did when my A started. Content, in control of my emotions...confident. I have had a bad year and so mentally I'm not who I was then. I hope to get closer to AP, see him more frequently and really have more of a fulfilling life overall. My A is NOT my life..just a very small part of it. I see women in so much anguish because the A totally consumes them and it is all they talk about and live for. I will not let myself get that way again over any man or anything.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2008
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 7:53pm

what are your expectations for your A in 2009


I expect that our A will continue much as it has been since last Spring.

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