What to believe...

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Registered: 11-17-2007
What to believe...
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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 7:43pm
Last nite in one last embrace for the nite, me and my ap told each other i love you.....i dont know what to think as we never have said that before to each other, and part of me thinks he was just being nice, the other part me believes it, the other part, can't believe it at all...he's known for a long time i'm in love with him. I guess we are more emotionally attached than anything as we never had sex and dont really talk about it. It's just not on my mind with what little time we have together, and I just want to enjoy his company. Neither of us would have a good conscience doing something like that. But we can be together without negative consequences in public with our friends, and discreetly steal away a few moments for ourselves. That's when we held each other while we were saying goodby, and i said it first and he answered by saying, "i love you, too"....we weren't looking at each other either as i had my head on his shoulder/face in his neck, smelling him....I finally took my head off him and we told each other, "i hope you have a happy Easter"...and we decided next time, if we're lucky to have time enough, we can play like kids. ( We're both in our mid 40's)I feel like we're bringing out the kid in each other lately. We've been having so much fun together its like feeling like a teenager all over again. He's always felt like my bestest friend in the world. We've known each other 9 yrs, but became attached a couple years ago. After i quit smoking, (which he helped me with), and i really started to get to know him.
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 8:55am

Are you M ? your AP ? from what little you have written here,its an EA.how long have you been together?
if you can control the urge to make it PA then do so tho the EA may turn out to be more harmful(?) than a PA, doesnt matter if you are S or M,the result is the same-- difficult to break free from each other even if wanting to.

EA can easily be taken as a friendship even tho its more than that,maybe thats why you are comfortable in continuing it.the 'problems' usually being when you get to know the other person more than is required.that line is crossed.you dont 'smell' friends ,do you?

Sorry,but what is that you need help with??
(( hugs ))