What a crazy life!!

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Registered: 12-31-1969
What a crazy life!!
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 1:57pm

Oh, boy, where do I begin?! Long story short, on Wednesday my H disappeared all afternoon. When he didn't return home I began calling all local hospitals, police dept, etc. At some point his mom decided to search at local jail and there he was! No charge was listed at the time - around 11pm. She went to post bail and I stayed home with kids. At about 3am I searched the website again and charge was posted: Offer agreement to scure for lewd act...basically, paying for oral sex. 

Anyhow, I was a mess yesterday. He returned home in the afternoon and I couldn't even look at him. How low can you go? He tried to excuse it by saying it was a sting operation and the woman lead him with questions. Yeah, well, if he weren't interested, he would not even have engaged in conversation, agreed on payment and service, and accepted offer. 

I went for my afternoon walk yesterday afternoon and ran into potential AP. We walked to nearby park to talk about what had happened. Said I could have called him in the middle of the night (?!) b/c this was big and I needed someone to talk to. I went back home and told H I'd be going out & he'd have to take care of kids. Potential AP and I drove to the beach, drank a beer, and talked about the craziness of all this, what I'd do (kick

h out and most likely D at this point), and then made out, etc. We spent a whole 3 hours together. And apparently he is emotionally supportive and not completely emotionally unavailable. He'll have LO all weekend and we'll be doing something tomorrow. 

What a crazy life!

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 7:28pm

Paying for sex is a lot more honorable than trying to get "support" from someone, which would then lead to sex. Just my opinion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2010
Sat, 09-01-2012 - 7:19am
An emotionally unavailable man can be supportive and show lots of empathy, they block their own emotions and feelings, things that have to do with them. They many times substitute sex for intimacy.

You feel they are giving to you, you see small hints but those things only give you a glimmer of hope. I wish you luck. Use your AP as a friend, you both need that right now. Try and keep this real, he has told you who and what he is about.