What Did I Do???
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What Did I Do???
| Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:25pm |
OK, it's become glaringly obvious to me that I'm not meant to live a celibate life!
Usually around the two week mark after being with AP, I find myself really missing him, and really "in need", as well.

You weren't cheating on AP. But yeah, having sex with your H might make him hope that you're coming back to him, and that's probably another reason you feel bad about it. But give yourself a break! It's hard to be celibate! It's the one reason I didn't think harder about being a nun LOL! (When I grew up, anyone who went through school at Catholic schools at least entertained the idea of priesthood for boys, a nun's life for girls).
Since this happened, you just have to make sure your H sees it for what it was - a weak moment that means nothing as far as your separation. I think you'll be a little more careful about timing those skinny dipping sessions LOL.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Hi there,
It's baffling to me how we feel we cheated on Ap when we do it with H. I thought I was the only one who felt this way but I guess its because our feelings for AP are so strong and perhaps we are emotionally detached from H that we feel this way.
Please try not to feel bad, after all this is your H and you both have history and some feelings in the mix still. It happens and if it bothers you so, then I guess there wont be a next time and you can move on from here. I'd see it as a learning experience.
What's a girl to do and how can he resist, seeing you skinny dip ;).
Wishing you all the best!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Hi another,
I wouldn't give yourself a hard time over this you are human after all and even though you and H are seperating he is still your H.
I was in a similar situation with my childrens father a long time ago, he didn't want to end it I did( due to his cheating and violence) and yet I still found myself having sex with him on more than one occasion I might add! Although I wasn't in another relationship I still felt bad afterwards as I knew that there was never going to be any chance of us getting back together it was sex and that was all.
If you found out AP was sleeping with his W do you think that he would think he was cheating on you? sorry if that sounds harsh it wasn't meant to be it is just that we are all human and we all have needs.
Chin up he caught you at a vulnerable moment and its not the end of the world big hugs to you.
ali x
lucky you got some action. the last time i was touched by AP was in May....
we all have physical needs, and i don't think you owe your AP any explanantion. it was like eating a huge piece of cheesacake, we regret it, but we were still hungry for it.
you never divulged your dalliances with AP to your H right? now conitnue to live the same way. forgive yourself for this one mistake. but if it becomes habit, then yo have some soul-searching to do... or you are just lucky to have two available men in your life!
hang in there
"you never divulged your dalliances with AP to your H right? now conitnue to live the same way"
anotherseyes
No, I think she means that every time you had sex with AP, you didn't run home and tell H about it.
No, it's not oversimplifying it, I don't think.
anotherseyes
" What did I do ? " You did to your AP what you do to H,lol! when that didnt bother then why should this ;)
Enjoy both while you can,as do I !!