What Did I Just Do???

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Registered: 05-03-2010
What Did I Just Do???
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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 10:36pm

I know, my posts get a little wordy at times, so bare with me;).


AP likes to tease me, and of course, I always fire back at him.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:52am
Wow! Well, I think he has already probably been having these thoughts and feelings for a while, and while being with you may not help, it didn't cause it, either.
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Registered: 05-19-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 8:50am

"What did I do?" better would be to ask "what I didnt do to push him away?" then I would have said " everything" lol !

Wise people say 'think before you speak'.

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 11:46am

They really do have to make up their own minds about having an A.


I tried everything I could with my former AP to get him over that horrible guilt.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:33pm

Another...I think you did all you could do in that situation :)

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 3:22pm

This is just my intuition on this... but if he's with you, and sharing his intimate thoughts and feelings with you, you backing off, giving him space, giving him freedom to do what is best for him, won't encourage him to take the out.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 5:14pm

Thanks everyone:).

anotherseyes

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 5:37pm

{{{hugs}}}


The way you speak of your friendship with him is wonderful.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 8:07pm
Still nothing.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 05-21-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 8:57pm

Another,


I thought you were going to take some steps back and not be so available? I think what your therapist told you was really good advice. You are making yourself to available to this man, and he is obviously going through things. Only because I am outside looking in, if I were you, I would STEP BACK and stop the contact. Let him come to you and sadly if that means you don't see each other tomorrow then you don't. I do not know much about how to handle these A's ...obviously, if you have read any of my posts. But I am learning that it is best not to push anyone into doing anything. When a guy wants you, he finds you. Give him some space.


I think you have to steady yourself right now. Just my .02 Because as I have watched my A start to crumble around me, the one thing that sped it up was me trying to stop it. I think if I had just stood still, the damage would have been minimal instead of monumental.


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 10:39pm

There were two primary reasons I sent him a message today:

anotherseyes