What a difference a half hour makes!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
What a difference a half hour makes!!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 7:00pm
First, it seems like there are a lot of people having difficult times out there. I hope that good times are around the corner. I feel bad about gloating but I have to get this out or I'll explode!!! I just posted that MM called and the cell got disconnected and I still needed to talk to him. Well, about 1/2 hour later he called and asked if he could come over for 5 minutes. He did and said that he is going ahead with the D and not looking forward to confronting his W but knows he has to and will do it soon. Maybe even this weekend!! He said that he doesn't know how I feel and doesn't want anyone to put blame on me and asked how I'd feel if anyone confronted me about "us". I wasn't sure how to reply but said that I would feel bad if someone thought it was my fault but I know the truth and will try to get through this as well. I suggested it is probably best that I stay away until he actually leaves his M but he said "I won't let you" lol. I said that I'll do my best to hang in there for him. We are planning to spend some time on Monday. I'm in such a state of shock right now!!! Everything seems to be happening so fast. I never thought he would actually decide to leave so quickly. He just wants to be happy and can't if he stays. He is going to go through such a tough time and this is such a new experience for me. Wish me the strength to provide him with what he needs. And I'd be happy to take any advice on the road ahead!! Thanks.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 1:29pm
Good luck to you Hope....

It will be a difficult road for him....and it will take some time and patience on your part to help him through this all....

Don't rush into anything with him until the Divorce is final....and make sure that you and MM do have your stories the same for confrontation time if it should come to that...

Keep us posted...

molly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 1:54pm
Thanks Molly. You have quite the job figuring out this new board so messages don't get neglected :))) Well, I actually have news. MM left a message yesterday saying that he stirred things up and didn't want anything come flying my way. Talk about anxiety. All I wanted to do was call him back but I couldn't because I didn't know if he was at home or not. So he did say he wanted to talk to me tomorrow. I'm hoping he calls today. I have been thinking and feel like it might be best to just lay low and let them figure out what they need to. I don't wish this on anyone and could never imagine how his W is feeling. They've been married for over 20 years and have 2 teenage daughters. I just think it would be fair to the W to have MM give her 100% of his attention to get through this and that is not possible if I'm in the picture. I so wish I could be there for him but it really is between him and his W. But I will listen to him tomorrow and will discuss this and see what he thinks. I definitely agree to talk to him so we are on the same page. If I stay out of the way right now, it might be easier to stick to the story that we were just friends and let the kissing part just be between him and I.

Well, thanks for replying!!!! Glad my message didn't get lost!!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 2:22pm
I have found a great way to keep up on the board...each time i log on..i just look for the messages i haven't read yet...that way i can be sure i get to read each and every message like before...*s*

molly