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| Thu, 05-13-2010 - 2:14am |
ok heres my situtation i'm married with 2 kids and i've been seeing this guy for a while we feel in love no one know about our relationship except his kids and his family about 2 months ago he asked me to marry him i said yes and he wants to move in together but now that i wanna tell everyone about us and wanna start looking for an apartment he seems to have gotten distant towards me i dont know what to do i know he has been working alot but boy i get no attention i do everything for him whatever he asks i do but its not the same on his end i rarely talk to him or see him anymore ive asked him if he still wants to be with me he says yes but im not sure.. that pretty much sums it up please help me please this is killing me i love him so much i just dont know what to do

Is he single or married, lilconfused?
Although it doesn't matter with what I'm going to say. It does sound like he might be pulling back - someone who has plans to live with someone rarely gets so distant that you don't speak to each other very regularly.
It sounds like you aren't happy in your marriage and you should think about that. If you leave your marriage, it should be because you're unhappy, and you'd be happier alone than with your H. You have to leave because the marriage is bad, not to be with your AP, because things with AP are not guaranteed to work out!
What is strange is that he asked you to marry him and you said yes - that makes you his fiance - but you can't really be someone's fiance if you're married to someone else - especially if you're living with your H. You didn't really say that you ARE living with your H but I'm assuming you are.
I guess I need more details to really understand what's going on. If he's single and his family knows about you and he considers you his fiance, he might be upset that you're still living with your H and be pulling back because of that. Fill us in on more details.
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