What to do?

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Registered: 09-30-2003
What to do?
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Fri, 10-17-2003 - 2:26pm
I am so depressed. Me and MM have been in A for 3 months, best friends for a year and work together. I came into this thinking it was just going to be physical, and I think he thought the same thing. We are so much alike and get along great. I wrote hum a letter a month ago after he had a fight with his W and he said that he was going to divorce her because of so many things and that he was not going to stay in the M because of his child. It was never mentioned that what we were doing had anything to do with that fight or his decision to divorce. The letter said that I supported whatever he decided to do and that if he decided to patch things up with W that it would not change what we have, that I understood that we both belonged to other people, and that unfortunately I fell in love with him and that I am ok with the current situation. After that he told me he loved me too and has since said it more. I love him too but now I know I made a big mistake with that letter. We have since broken up twice and said we want to be just friends, but we cant. I would like to break it off because nothing ever comes out of these kind of relationships, but find it hard since we work together. I don't know what to do I have strong feelings for him. I love my H but more like a friend there is no passion. I feel horrible because I know even though I break it off with MM I still will not love my H in that way. Oh and by the way after the letter things patched up with MM and W. I just thought maybe he was testing me to see if I would say "yes divorce".

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Registered: 10-16-2003
In reply to: sally289
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 4:38pm
in the beginning of my affair i said i would do things i'm not sure i could really go thru with,but i truly meant them when i said them.divorce is easier said than done.i love my h in the same way as you...i think that's what makes me feel saddest & guiltiest of all.