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What to do?!
| Wed, 09-17-2003 - 12:12pm |
My R is with my EXH who is engaged to another women living with her and we are having an A. He claims he will leave in 2 months his deadline is 11/15. The problem I am having NOW is I have nightmares of him lying to me, planning his wedding behind my back with her, playing me for a fool, I know he is unhappy with her, like I mentioned before, our daughter comes home from a weeknend with him and tells me how bad it was how bad they fight I just am so obsessed with "THEIR" relationship, how do I not focus on it and get my head on straight. I know if he decides to stay life goes on and it wont be the end of the world, but it is sooo hard to focus on anything else, how do you do it??? Would he really be chancing all he is doing with me, )Counsling, phone calls ,cards, emails if he was not going to leave, because he DOES know my Italian temper and he is leaving himself open to get busted, If he chosses to stay Id have nothing to loose to tell her( I wont do that I dont want him cause SHE kicked him out) but he IS taking a huge chance and that should count for something right. Him going to counsling has to tell me something right, I am thinking out loud all input would help!!!

This is why you feel the way you do. It is so cut and dry.
You may be offended by my words but they are only words. I think they are wise though. If someone wants to have an affair, that's their business. But, to not understand simple facts that are going on in your life is beyond me.
Of course you feel obsessed/insecure. You are not in an honest relationship. Until you are, this is how it goes. And, since you two started this relationship on shaky ground, you may feel this way for the rest of your life---with this man.
Sorry for the "direct" approach, but I feel it's best sometimes.