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| Mon, 06-15-2009 - 7:10pm |
I have no clue where to go from here and what is best for him... His W has suspected for awhile now and found something to comfirm it and flipped out. She ended up telling their girls all under 13 that she had an A and now Dad is and they are getting divorced. (she had an A for 5 years), then I find out today that Friday it got worse she attempted suicide and he had to admit her to the hospital Saturday for suicide watch. Her Mom committed suicide 5 years ago so there are mental issues there. I told him that we could be done, Im trying to make it easier on him but he said that hasnt crossed his mind. I dont know what to do about this.. I feel horrible. Anyone?

only this woman is responsible for her actions, not one other person on this planet is responsible for her actions, only her. So if she kills herself, that's her, and it's the single most selfish thing anyone can do (even more than an A!)
That being said, this woman also really set herself up. If your mm is wanting a divorce, he'll get it easily, and he'll get custody of the girls, too. Mom is unstable, based on her suicide attempt. That's so sad that she tried that.
For now, for you, just let him know he can call on you any time, day or night, but that you won't call him, so that he can deal with this fall out without interruption. Be available for him, be supportive, but don't expect much from him. Regardless of the status of their marriage, she has been a part of his life all these years and it's hard when that takes a dive like this. He'd gonna be torn over what to do next. Sounds like divorce is in the air, but it's gonna be hard for everyone. Take a deep breath, you are not responsible for her actions. You are only responsible for yours, so act responsibly right now (and waiting for him to call is gonna be hard, but the most supportive thing you can do)
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