what to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2009
what to do?
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Tue, 05-12-2009 - 5:05pm

Oh gee where can I start. Well this isn't the first A I have had on H.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 5:25pm

Hi Gal -


Welcome to the board.

lightning in my heart

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2009
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 5:35pm

Honestly, I stay because he won't let me leave peacefully. I decided to go back to school and here I am 30-something and one more year of school left before I graduate. I pray that I can make a decent enough living to be able to leave at that point. My friends all think I am stupid, but they don't understand what it is like to feel trapped in a marriage. It easier to be told to leave then it is to actually have to be the one to leave, no offense to anyone, I mean that's just how I feel.


I know I deserve to be treated with just the simplest and basic human emotional needs and

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2009
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 2:06am

No one deserves to stay in an exhausting marriage that's eating into your self-worth.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 5:53am

"It easier to be told to leave then it is to actually have to be the one to leave, no offense to anyone, I mean that's just how I feel."

Wake up! No one said ending a relationship was supposed to be easy. You already know that you want a better life by going to school. Make an exit strategy from your marriage and do it. How long are you willing to wait to let him DECIDE? Don't give him that power over you.

Really, what are your choices here:

Stay and wait (continuing to suffer his abuse) and have affairs
Start abusing him back hoping that HE will end it
Putting your balls on and making the life you want

I don't really think you want to do the first 2 options there do you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 2:59pm

I had the same kind of H. I left him and got a D and an A. Im so much happier now. Im a stronger person now.

Scar
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2007
In reply to: gal_lonely1
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 3:28pm

At some point you will need to deal with your problem. All the affairs in the world will not help you feel better about who you are. Affairs are like bandages. It will cover the