What to do from here?
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What to do from here?
| Mon, 01-05-2004 - 10:08am |
I talked with SG on Christmas Eve. We had a good talk, got some things out in the open. He told me he would not pursue me because I was married, but he would respond to me. He said he was getting too attached to me and everyone was going to end up hurt. He said he was going out of the country from 12/29 to 1/4 and we would get together and talk when he got back. I felt good about it. Then on New Year's Eve at dinner my H casually mentions, "oh guess who I saw today in traffic". H saw SG (H knows him but doesn't know about us of course). So SG lied yet again and was not out of the country (everyone knows he lies). I was crushed, but had to act like it was no big deal. I had sent SG a friendly Happy New Year e-mail just that morning. Well I haven't gotten a reply yet and it's been 5 days. Now the thing is, did he see my H. I asked my H if he did and H didn't know. If he saw him he will be wondering if my H mentioned to me and then his lie would be blown. I've been crying all morning since H left for work..I kept it in all through the holidays. I want to contact SG, act like I know nothing, and set up a time to talk like we discussed. I know from all of you here that this is not what affairs are supposed to be like. Our paths would never cross if it wasn't for me doing all the work. SG acts so unconcerned about everything and he lies to me trying to make his life seem so much more than it is. I'm not ready to give it up though, I think deep down he is just very lonely and doesn't know what to do about me. If you were in my position, which I'm sure many of you are, what would you do. I can't let this drop this way. How should I proceed from here? Thanks everyone, C

good luck honey,
gurl
Is this A worth the grief he is putting you through?
I doubt your ever going to be happy with a game player.
Sorry
FREE
you're married, he's single. you pursue him, for what, a few minutes of his time and all he says is that you're not bothering him, or that he's getting attached to you. does he demonstrate by his actions any of those statements?
why are you frustrated? SG is making it loud and clear how he feels. he'll take the sexual aspect of the R when offered and handed to him on a silver plate (who wouldn't!), but he will MAKE NO EFFORT to reciprocate for you.
if you really need to have an A, find someone a bit more receptive and appreciative to you and your efforts. SG is NOT the one!
you deserve better treatment from someone you want to be intimate with. keep up the NC and focus your attention elsewhere.
sorry i can't be more positive. stay away from him!
gurl
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and SG is part of your crap so get rid of it and him. it's a new year and time to start fresh!
so dry those tears and wash your face. when your H gets home, hug him and thank him for his positive outlook and make the effort to be with him and enjoy life.
LIVE YOUR LIFE for you!!
gurl