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What do I do????
| Sat, 06-13-2009 - 11:31am |
Hello
I have never done anything on-line like this before but I am desperate for answers.
| Sat, 06-13-2009 - 11:31am |
Hello
I have never done anything on-line like this before but I am desperate for answers.
tough choices you have to make, and only you can make them. You have to decide if you want your marriage. Decide that first. Is there anything there? Your H is great, that's what you said. You have children together. So decide if you want your marriage. If you do, you have to cut that man out of your life completely and turn completely into your h. Make this decision quickly, because if you don't, you are just gonna get in deeper and it will be even harder to get out. Check out the marriage builders website, search it for tools. If you continue in your A, everyone will get hurt, you are all already hurting and it will only get worse. BTW, what you have right now is an emotional affair, it IS an affair, and your h knows that. You are having an affair (it took me nearly a year to realize and understand that in my own life!) You have hard choices to make, but based on your post, I'd say if this x hadn't come along, you'd have happily continued in your marriage, which means you aren't wanting to leave it. You just can't leave your marriage for another man, if you need out, you need out for yourself and your own account doesn't indicate that.
And when you go no contact (known here as NC) it will feel like you lost your best friend, and like your guts are being ripped out. This is when you have to turn to your H and he has really be there to catch you.
like i said in another post,real love is a tough call.you will pine for him and he,for you.
i wish i had an answer.