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What do I do?
| Sat, 02-28-2004 - 8:41pm |
I've been married over 11 yrs. to a great guy. Not my dream man. I married him because he was safe, honest, he loved me, I could be myself, I know he would never cheat on me. But......I wonder if he is really the one. I love him, but I'm not in love with him. I can't remember the last time I really wanted to have sex. I mean, I really don't remember. Maybe 7 yrs. or more. If he was just a room mate and no sex. Just raising the kids, this would be great. I am not turned on by him. I can't stand to have him kiss me, touch me sexually or have sex. I have to have had some drinks and really concentrate on fantisizing.
There is a guy at work who I am wondering if I missed out on something. I am extremely attracted to him and I know he is to me. He is not married. He would treat me the way I am looking for. He would be romantic, (he's sexy too, at least I think so), he appreciates me as a woman, he would find a way to do things for me, HE's AFFECTIONATE, he listens, etc. All the things I was always looking for. How can I be married and friends with my husband and want to be with someone else?
There is a guy at work who I am wondering if I missed out on something. I am extremely attracted to him and I know he is to me. He is not married. He would treat me the way I am looking for. He would be romantic, (he's sexy too, at least I think so), he appreciates me as a woman, he would find a way to do things for me, HE's AFFECTIONATE, he listens, etc. All the things I was always looking for. How can I be married and friends with my husband and want to be with someone else?
This has been going on for over a year. I have tried to not be around him at work and forget about him, but I can't help myself. I;m the type of person that when I want something, I have to have it. And I will find a way to get it. We have been talking about going out for drinks again. We've kissed, we always hug and find anyway to get any contact with each other. What do I do?
Confused

You have no real idea how this man will treat you 5 years from now or if he will even be interested in you after he has be shagging you for 5 or 6 weeks, you have pumped him up in your imagination into this super wonderfull Guy, your going to find out that reality can be very different from your fantasies.
Perhaps it is time for you to tell your husband he does not make the grade any more and you want out of the marriage instead of wasteing both your time.