What to do??? Never thought I'd be here
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| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:23pm |
In the past month or so, I have found myself interested in another man. He is also married, but very unhappy and is planning on divorcing his wife. they have no children and live about an hour away. We used to only talk on the internet, for hours every night. Recently we have been talking on the phone everyday. We are planning on seeing each other on the 17th.
I am absolutly in a happy marriage! My husband and I are truly "soulmates". We know what each other is thinking, we are each others half. I don't feel like I am missing anything in my marriage and don't know what I would do without my wonderful husband. he is a good father and plays and active role in our daughters life. He helps me with whatever I need. He is there for me emotionally and physically. But, he is the only man I have ever had any physical relations with. I find myself wondering, what would sex be like with another man? Am I really satisfied with my sex life at home, or do I think I am because I have nothing to compare it to. It isn't just the physical curiousity that makes me want to be with this other man, I really enjoy our conversations.
I know that whatever is done, can't be undone. I know that I will never leave my husband and have told this other man that. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be great!!!
Kamcastillo

i have a daughter and this what i would say to her: if you love your H and your M is offering you everything you need, why jepardize everything for strange sex? yes, there are a billion other guys out there who are probably great sexually, but do you really need to explore that option when you have good, affectionate, satisfying, loving sex with your H??
most of the posters here will tell you that no sex, or bad sex, is the no. #1 reason they started an A. curiosity killed the cat, sweetie. don't do this -- do not meet this man on the 17th. don't correspond with him, don't talk with him on the 'puter. say goodbye, it's been fun, but it's over. and mean it. stay out of chatrooms that lead you to question yourself and your life. those people (as are we on this board) are strangers.
will you change your entire life for a stranger?? that's your choice. be aware of the consequences if you proceed any further.
good luck with your decision,
life
But overall, and I think most people would agree, if you are that happy and satisfied in your marriage, dont go for an affair! Definitely avoid it while you still can. Once you meet this guy and have sex with him, it will become next to impossible to stop it right away!
I suppose I can understand why you would wonder what it would be like to be with another man. But take it from someone who has been with a few people in my time. The best sex is between two people who love and trust and desire each other. It sounds like you already have that. Don't risk losing that for something different. There are basically only two things that could come of this for you. 1)You find it unfulfulling and wonder why you did it or 2)You'll enjoy it and want more, which could be even worse. Either way, you'll feel guilty and it will change how you view your M.
There is only one question you need to ask yourself here: which is more important to you - sex or love? Hopefully it is the latter. And if so, you'll need to break ties with this OM and tell him you can't be with him.