what to do next?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2007
what to do next?
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Sun, 08-31-2008 - 1:49am

My H and I seem to be compatible in every way, except in bed. I have never really found him that attractive and I married him for all his other qualities and thought sex wasn’t that important. I was wrong and over the last year, I have thought about leaving him a lot.

Recently, I met a man that I was really drawn to and we eventually had sex. The sex was amazing! The OM is now away on business and wants me to come and visit him. I miss him and want to sleep with him again, but making this trip would mean admitting to myself and my H that our marriage is over. But I am not sure I want that! The OM and I aren’t very compatible and he’s already been divorced twice. There's not a future with the OM, but I don't know if there is one with my H either.

I want to be a good wife and honor my vows. I don’t want to break my H’s heart, but I also don’t want to be married to some I am not attracted to. Help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 6:41am

I have been through and am still going through - EXACTLY what you are describing.