What To Do When He's Done But You're Not

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Registered: 01-10-2007
What To Do When He's Done But You're Not
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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 5:12pm
I'm devestated.
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Registered: 08-19-2008

Time to wake up and smell the coffee. The fantasy is good, but if it infringes and threatens reality, it's time to step back and decide which you would rather have. Looks like he did just that. He decided that he'd rather have his W and family. They're what's important to him now.

You can take his lead and decide what's important to you too before anyone (besides yourself) get hurt. Maybe it's time to realized what you had with AP is fantasy and you're not a child anymore...... Now is the time to really take a good look at your life and understand why you persist in having this fantasy life (for 12-yrs) with this OP even knowing that it can cause devastation, hurt and chaos to so many loved ones on both sides if uncovered.

A good dose of reality I think is what's needed here. Let go and be glad you didn't have a D-day to decide the fate of your M.

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Registered: 09-30-2008

First of all hugs to you and I am sorry you are hurting. I can't imagine the loss you feel and also feeling like you had no choice. I guess as far as he is concerned there isn't anything you can do.

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Registered: 02-23-2008
Mon, 10-20-2008 - 10:18pm
hugs..can't begin to imagine how hurt sad and at a loss you are right now...12 yrs is a long time so a lot of emotions and love involved. sounds like the wife is hot on his trail and your H is clueless.....hang in there hun maybe he is just looking for some space....keep posting.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 10-20-2008 - 11:50pm

I'm sorry you are in such pain from your ending, losingmyhead.


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Registered: 06-27-2008
Tue, 10-21-2008 - 12:06am

Wow - I was never in one for twelve years, but my OM would tell me that our affair WAS