What do you all think?

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Registered: 10-13-2003
What do you all think?
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 9:32pm

My EMA has been going on for only a month now.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 9:49pm

Hi Flirty and welcome,


You know... he really could just be busy...


My MM is obviously married... he has two small children and works full time... not to mention that I too am married with two small children and study part time... all that can make for a trying time to match our schedules together... without interuptions... I can tell you... it's not easy.


I do admit that I will more often than not try to work around MM... he has to skip work and it's easier for me to swap my childrens child care days for when it suits him... although he has and will often fit into the days that are obviously better for me.


We email and talk a hell of a lot more than we manage to see one another... but as frustrating as it can be at times... it's well worth the wait... and trust me... between two small children and my EMA, I have a lot more patience.


You both have lives to live and if I'm to be truthful and honest... when you are both married... this must be your number one priority... and unfortunately... you must take a back seat.


While it may sound bad... it doesn't have to be... I now have a reasonable marriage and then I have my EMA which is my break from reality... both are wonderful and different relationships that I truly cherish.


If this is what you want... give him time to settle into it... although he's had an affair... this is new and different and he may just have been hurt before and is still feeling his way.


Let us know how things go.


luv and hugs


Sweet
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Registered: 10-13-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 9:58pm
Thanks, Sweet.