What do you make of this?
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| Tue, 05-11-2004 - 6:02pm |
Lately, I'd say at least the past month - things with MM have been awesome. Lots of contact, very intense, great convo etc. Saw him the other night and yesterday and we had great, great S**!! Talked to him twice today and first he commented that he needs to be careful to take care of "Momma" too because she's mentioned in the past that they don't "do it as often" then, recently he bought a new toy and I asked if I got to go with him...he said.."yeah, eventually..she's really excited about it" hum, I understand the family thing, totally. Then, this afternoon we talked about going on a joint business trip and he mentioned that he probably wouldn't go because "his bride" (he's never called her that before) might want to go and it would be uncomfortable - is this just sheer honesty?
I'm looking for some honest feedback - we've been involved for a year - do you think he's rethinking things or am I just overreacting. Just seems like things were great yesterday, then today...seemed a bit distant from me???

EMA -
It's hard to be a realist in these situations but you do know he has a W - so you just either have to suck it up and handle it as hard as it may be - or you need to ask him to not discuss his W or plans he has with his W with you - the later seems to be a bad situation because once he stops opening up to you about his W he will stop opening up to you about his life and the other things that are important to him (you).
It is hard to have to listen to the details of what you are missing out on - but I am
sure the shoes goes on both feet when you are telling him details of your life that he
is also missing out on - (you do not mention if you are M as well or not)
He seems to enjoy spending a great deal of time with you and seems very open with you
so I think you need to just try not to let him realize you are so sensitive to his
bringing his W into the conversation, even if you are sensitive to it - he may be picking up on your envy or jealousy and rethinking how he goes about discussing things with you
but the reality of it is she is always going to be there in some way shape or form as long as he remains married to her or she remains married to him
I hope this helps a little
Kikki
I am very, very insecure about our R, but fear telling him this will make him run in the other direction, but, maybe I should - if he goes, than it wasn't worth it.