what do you think............
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what do you think............
| Wed, 11-12-2003 - 10:48am |
.....about this situation ? I, from what I can see, have been in (or maybe it is one sided) an emotional affair with a co-worker. I have worked w/ MM for 5 years and from the get go he always flirted with me. In fact he flirts w/ everyone. He is a really nice guy and over the years we have grown close. I talk about my relationship w/ my H w/ him and he every now and then mentions his W and their M. We have never discussed (other than joking) taking things further than what they are now and I am becoming impatient. All I want is for this man to take me in his arms and hold me or kiss me or anything. I am not sure he wants the same thing and I am afraid to make a move that would suggest my feelings. I am in fear that I would lose the frienship and closeness we have together, but I am having a hard time thinking of anything else but to just reach out to him. Especially when he walks in my office and tells me how good I look (in whatever I have on that day) or walks up behind me and tells me I smell so good. And then he has these incredible sexy eyes and gives me these looks like he could take me right there and it's all I can do to not give him what I think he wants. See how confused I am? Am I just nieve or imagining things ? Has anyone else had this to happen ?

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Flirting is not an affair, though it is probably not something your husband would like to witness. Doing anything beyond that - *that* is an affair.
gurl
so -- no, no, no, never ask for it! make 'em beg, that's all i'm gonna say.....
gurl
Anyway, I have to do something or he HAS to do something. I mean yeah, it's great to have something to look forward to at work, but this is consuming all of my thoughts. I am CONSTANTLY scrutinizing his every move and mine and it's got to either stop or move forward. Our x-mas party is coming up in a month and being drunk on top of all this won't help will it ? I'll keep you posted.
Thanks, you all are great ! I feel "less consumed" now.
Blue
blue, no matter what those other women look like, if he's flirty with all of you, he's stroking his own ego.
and again, you need to sit him down and tell him he's sending those mixed signals and you don't know what to think. let him explain himself!!
but be careful, 'cause that's your job and i know you need the money, honey!!
gurl
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