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| Thu, 04-01-2004 - 3:28pm |
He has recently lost a lot of weight and apparently she made him feel good saying such things "boy you are looking good" and really acting like she wanted him. He told me of the incident. I tell him everyday how sexy and gorgeous he is - even before the weight loss. We do not spend a 1/3 of the time together that we used to. My work takes up a lot of time and we haven't been devoting much time together.
This, while not an affair, has totally crushed me. I think it is in no way OK for a spouse to do anything like this. I know he loves me. All he said was that he should leave because he can't face me (which I see as the easy way out). He said that he would still support me (his contribution to our finances) and do such things as mow the yard, etc. I told him that he was just trying to make it easier on himself. I told him that I wanted to forgive him, but right now (1 day later), I have no self-esteem and fill awful. I really feel like I did something, but at the same time I say "I would never do that". If our marriage is in trouble, I want to talk about it and deal with it.
I am so concerned that my husband wants another life now. That scares me completely. I love him and I used to trust him. How can you recover from this? Again, I realize it is not an affair, but some on this board might have advice for me.
Thanks for allowing me to vent.

I'm so sorry to hear of your pain... I have not been there... but I've seen the hurt from it.
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