What do YOU think this board needs?
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| Fri, 04-03-2009 - 6:56pm |
Part of the reason I wanted to return as cl of this board is because I started worrying that this place that meant so much to me was in danger of slipping away. I am not the only one. Some of my closest friends (the ones I made here, BTW) had the same feelings.
It is pretty obvious that there a lot of you out there still lurking, just given what I have seen in the last two days. Lots of posters turned lurkers popping up to say, "yep, still here!" I am sure you all remember what this place meant for you and how much help and comfort you got from being here. I don't want to have a discussion about what support means, we have done that. I want to know why some very knowledgeable people no longer want to give their support or share their experiences. I know, from being a cl before, it does get hard to see the same train wreck over and over again, but then I remember: I was once the train wreck. All of us who post here were. (Sorry to so blatantly steal from you, Mrs. but you said that well).
So, regardless of what your brand of support is (for those curious, mine is straight to the point with a very low tolerance for b*ll s**t), I think we all have something to offer. Especially for that new person who comes in, scared, confused and needing the shoulder of people in the same situation as well as those of us who have already ridden the roller coaster a few times.
While there are a lot of lurkers out there who used to post regularly, I also know there are a lot of lurkers who have, for one reason or another, not felt comfortable posting their own stories. I hope that someday you will feel comfortable enough to post (I still remember how nervous I was when I hit "post message" for the first time).
So, help me out. Give me suggestions for breathing some life back into an old friend. Differing opinions and all. After all, the differences in us all have always been what made this place so great.

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Welcome shadowz and a huge thank you for stepping into some mighty big shoes to fill~~dear lynn's...I have followed your posts and know we are lucky to have you--
I think this board needs to be a place where one feels able to open up and be honest about the joys and heartache when involved in an Affair. That is possible when we treat each other with respect and compassion, free of judgment with a dash of wisdom from those of us who have 'been there done that'....basically i feel this Board needs to grow in the
spirit of sharing...after all--who is better to help one another then
US.
Because once we arrive here, that is really all we are looking for.
Thanks for the welcome. Since I was cl before (with an awesome co-cl who taught me so much) the shoes are comfy if needing some sizing ;).
I agree that posters should feel comfortable sharing and feel safe in opening up.
Thanks again for the welcome!
i love you for this.
my only thought at the moment is totally logistical. i think the folders need some rearrangement. If you are like me, you start at the top and never get further - unless you know what to look for. MAS Talk seem to collect everything. that being said, i'm not sure how it *should* look - but it might help with some of the frustration. especially for those who don't want to read or respond to certain type of posts (in other words, leave Intimacies at the bottom).
i have often thought it would help to have folders for SAP/MAP versus MAP/MAP since the dynamics are somewhat different. it's been poo-pooed before but may help with some conflict in POV.
i'll sleep on it.
Mrs.
I desperately want to share my entire story with the board because I know if anyone can help me through my emotions - it's this board. But, when I see people share their stories and over and over see "RUN!" you don't feel like sharing your story is a very good idea.
I know that many people here are BTDT type people (heck, I am one of them in a way...) but I think sometimes instead of this being a board where you can express exactly how you're feeling at that moment -- you worry you'll be "scolded" which is often how posts come across.
It's great to have people who have BTDT on this board to offer that kind of advice, but sometimes.. people don't want to hear "RUN AWAY NOW!" as an answer to whatever they're going through. No expects to have someone pat them on the back and say "You're doing the right thing",
Edited 7/26/2009 10:40 pm ET by goblinqueen79
Let me start off here,
Glad to see you back, Shadowz. I used to post
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