What does he mean?

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Registered: 08-18-2008
What does he mean?
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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 12:36pm

Last Friday was a weird day for us. I talked with my AP on the phone and he seemed short with me


He was in a hurry and had to go. I didnt hear from hom all weekend which was not any suprise but I figured him to call Monday. NO CALL


Yesterday I made it til noon and called his phone

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 1:10pm
Hi mindy,

Yes, they are a confusing lot but take it from someone with experience in this....DON'T CALL AGAIN. I'm serious, just don't do it. I have been with my AP/BF for a year now and I have learned...the hard way, that if you just let them be and work out their stuff (and believe me, they have "stuff", just like us) he will contact you again. This is just from personal experience but I have discovered, in my case at least, this to be true. And from reading some other posts...it happens with lots of men.

I know it isn't easy but keep busy, hang in there and it will probably happen before you know it!

benska
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 1:43pm

Thanks


I have made it through lunch without calling him......its been hard but I do understand why I shouldnt call


I may make it today but each day without contact gets harder....any tips

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2008
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 1:56pm

While I completely understand the advice that Benska gave you- I

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 4:54pm

I usually try to find an excuse to get in contact ... as I just did a moment ago, sending him something funny that I saw on YouTube that I knew he'd like.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-25-2008
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 6:06pm

Was thinking about your questions with contact.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:34am

Hello Ladies


i made it yesterday without dialing his #


Today so far has been super hard! He has still not tried to make contact


He has not come straight out and told me its over but I sense that he is acting different.......why did he tell me "ill talk with u tomarrow" if he hadnt planned to?


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Registered: 02-25-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 5:47pm

Sorry it took me a bit to come back to your post.

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Registered: 07-23-2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 7:52pm

Ok....

Ive been exactly where you are before and I still an on occasion...

Men do this because normally they are feeling a little too much for someone or they are busy at work..

Then theres always the fact that if they are speaking to you a lot (no offense meant, if this is not the case - please ignore this) they may just feel that they need to "free" the phone up for someone else to get through on the phone ie work collegue or a friend etc....

It is hard not to be contacted.

As for who initiates who - bugger it - if u want to call - call but just remember that if he actually is needing to get on with some work you may just get a blunt response...

Men take their work and women (AP) very seriously...
Soz im babbling nnow....hope ive provided some insight...

Trust me if you look at my posts you will see that the NC is really something that gets to me and this is the only way ive come to accept it: