What does this mean?

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Registered: 05-31-2010
What does this mean?
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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 11:42pm

I've kept up communication with AP. Actually he has done 99% of the initiation of communication, once he starts I'll go along. I won't start it though. He sent me an email last week one day saying something about how well he has kept up the communication and that he bet I thought he never would.

Then about two days later we were texting back and forth and playing and he said something and I said something along the lines of if he had to give me up he'd miss me. I was totally playing, and he said yeah, he would.

Then yesterday we were talking about sex. He's not sure if he can go there, whatever, and I said well, I can get it elsewhere. And he came back with, something along the lines of all the time I have invested in him, and I'd have to start over.

I'm not sure where he is going with these comments. Any thoughts?

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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 7:27am
No clue. "All the time you have invested in him, you'd have to start over" (??) He makes it sound like the whole thing is a rigorous project that, once scrapped, would be an ordeal to do over with someone else LOL. Also sounds like he thinks you're the initiator and the pursuer. As to where he's going with the comments, I just don't know.

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 9:15am

I don't think he means rigorous effort, but more along the lines of we trust each other, we know we're each others safe bets. We both have no intentions of leaving our current situations. We both know we are only with each other for the adventure part of everything. Not to fall madly in love with each other and leave our SO's.

I'm most definitely not the initiator/pursuer! I think that is where his comment about him keeping up the communication part comes from I think. I'm not sure if he is hinting I should put forth more effort or what. It's very rare that I ever initiate contact with him. He is the one who does it first chance he gets. He is just in an odd sharing mood the past week or so and I'm not quite sure where it is coming from.