Hi Bitsy, I am sorry you are going through such a terrible time with this. My first reaction would be if he says he cannot breathe without you then maybe his oxygen needs to be taken away. have you tried NOT being there? Maybe he needs to see exactly how much you do mean. While i know none of us ever want to do this as it is such a scary thought maybe it is what you both need. You to find out how much you mean to him and for him to see what he wants. Unless you are willing to accept him being home again and seeing you only when he can, I don't see how, in the end, this will be ok for you. I understand completely a man being afraid to leave his family. I really do. We are not talking about HIM we are talking about you and how you feel, what it is you want or need. You need to maybe take a little time off and see what it is exactly that you want Bitsy. I think that the fact he knows you are there makes it easier for him to be where he is now. Just my thoughts from what I have read. Only you can make the decision of what you are willing to accept. Good luck, let us know how you make out.
I am sorry you are going through such a terrible time with this. My first reaction would be if he says he cannot breathe without you then maybe his oxygen needs to be taken away. have you tried NOT being there? Maybe he needs to see exactly how much you do mean. While i know none of us ever want to do this as it is such a scary thought maybe it is what you both need. You to find out how much you mean to him and for him to see what he wants. Unless you are willing to accept him being home again and seeing you only when he can, I don't see how, in the end, this will be ok for you. I understand completely a man being afraid to leave his family. I really do. We are not talking about HIM we are talking about you and how you feel, what it is you want or need. You need to maybe take a little time off and see what it is exactly that you want Bitsy. I think that the fact he knows you are there makes it easier for him to be where he is now. Just my thoughts from what I have read. Only you can make the decision of what you are willing to accept. Good luck, let us know how you make out.
nolove...
Thank you for your kind words.