What does MM mean by his reply?

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Registered: 02-22-2004
What does MM mean by his reply?
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:30pm
Last week MM and I got together and I told him about a great job offer I had received. It would be a great career oppty but would really limit family time., etc. He talked the whole issue through with me and gave me his advice, etc. I valued that. Yesteday, my current employer countered and I decided to stay put. I emailed MM and told him and then thanked him for his words of wisdom. At the end of my email to him I left him with a question. I said "Why do I tell you these things?" His response back to me was: "I think you know why you tell me these things. Because it feels right.......among other things....."

I'm dense I guess... what does he mean by this? Does it feel right to him as well??

Thx.

V.

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:06am
Perhaps he knows you depend on him...rely on him. You shared good news with him and he appreciates it. Sounds like he enjoys being that way with you. I don't think there is anything "hidden" in what he is saying. Take the words exactly as they are.

Good luck! (And congrats on the counter offer!)

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anonymous user
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:42am
I saw that when he said "among other things" he meant more than just the emotional support but maybe the physical side of your relationship!

:) Nice

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:22pm
But all we have ever done is hug and kissed a few times. Closed mouth. No passion ones (yet). So the physical side you refer to is very limited.

Comments?

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anonymous user
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:31pm
V

You know what? I don't know! But I will tell the impression I get is nothing but a positive one so don't try to analize it just take it as a compliment!


DeeDee

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:45pm
I also agree with some of the others. He knows you value his

opinion and seems to be trying to help you with advise.

I also would take it as a compliment As fare as " the other things "

I do not know where he is comming from on that remark...other things

like affection? I really don't know .

He evidently knows that you feel right talking with him. You seem to be

comfortable with him also, and that is good.

Good Luck:

Bunny

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 12:00am
The light bulb went on for me on this....awhile back when I talked with him about career stuff, I told him that my aspirations had given me a closed, cold heart. I asked him the same question in the end.. "why do I tell you these things?" and his response was '..Because I woke up your heart.... and because you love me...." Now granted that was way back in March, but do you think the ..."among other things" could be the love comment hidden? Does he think I am in love with him?

One other question... I told him I was going to DC for biz trip in June and said it was too bad he did not have any corp biz to attend to out there. I told him he would not have to worry about accommodations (as he would stay with me) and his response back was that he could get his employer to p/u the airfare but that employer would wonder why he does not need lodging. I almost thought he was serious until a few emails later. He told me he'd go and a few sentencees later said "It's all good entertainment" . So- even though I know he would not come with me, did he think I was being serious or kidding? I was hurt by this last comment. Did he mean as if we are just joking around in fun yet he thought I was serios and said that to indirectly tell me that he would NOT come? Is he toying with me or what?